Post # 17
I would find that rude and just tell her I wasn’t sure on the specs. Might have pointed out the obvious – it’s diamond and white gold(in my case).
If it was a good friend or family I wouldnt find it rude though and would tell them- depending on how they asked, although I wouldnt expect friends/fam to be rude.
ETA ** – one of my best friends just got engaged and I will ask her some of the specs(as she did to me). The ring is stunning and quite substantial so I am curious on the carat size, but i dont expect her to tell me the cost and frankly I dont care. =)
Post # 18
I think it’s rude to ask the price and personally unless a diamond was really large..I wouldn’t ask what the carat weight was. I figure if someone wears a large diamond they assume people are going to ask about it. The price is personal though.
Post # 19
Upon further thought, I think the best response would be “Well all the details I know for sure are: It’s 100% sparkly, A+ grade amazing, and as big as I can handle”
Post # 20
@polly-pocket I consider it rude, but mostly because of how she approached you about it. She did it at someone else’s party, bombarded you with questions and, when she didn’t get answers, she started gossiping with other girls.
If she was a close friend or family member and was just excited for you or curious, then maybe that would have been ok. But, again, it would really depend on how the questions were asked.
FWIW, if someone were to ask me I would just feign ignorance. Especially about the price. My Fiance makes decent money and was more than able to afford my ring. That doesn’t mean he wants anyone outside the two of us and the jeweler to know what he spent though. So, if asked, I would probably claim ignorance about everything except the cut of the diamonds and the fact that its sparkly. Lol!
Post # 21
@polly-pocket oh my. I almost put my foot in my mouth at work. I am sooo use to the bee and knowing how big etc.. I asked a girl to see her ring and wanted to know so bad how big it was… I almost asked and remembered that is soo rude! I was curious, not meant to be jugdy or anything negative just innocent but so glad I caught myself. Btw, before getting engaged I never thought anything of rings except ” that’s pretty”…. Now I’m thinking is it a real Diamond ? What color? carat? But truly curiosity and not comparing or anything mean.
Post # 22
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I find this rude. I dont share the stats of my ring outside my circle and here. People can guess. If they ask prices I say we got a rediculous deal and leave it at that.
Post # 23
I have people ask me how much mine cost (um RUDE) I just pretend like I have no idea!!
Post # 24
I think asking the price is rude but I don’t really see what is so bad about asking what metal/ specs etc. I guess it depends on the person and situation…. if someone was like oh my god that is amazing tell me more! vs someone that was like oh is that a promise ring? how cute
Post # 25
Really rude. I would not have been rude in return, but I would make it clear that I was not interested in answering the question. I would not lie and say I don’t know the specs if I did.
Post # 26
Does it matter??
The only reason I think I’d let a friend try on my ring was if they were ring shopping themself and wanted to see how my particular style looked on their finger or something. Other than that it is just a really weird request to me…
You can always say you don’t know the specs I suppose. Little white lie, but sometimes it is necessary
Post # 27
@polly-pocket I don’t think you’re being sensitive at all! I think the way she went around trying to find out your specs was a bit excessive and I can see why you would be put off. I am always curious about people’s specs too, but I don’t ask because I don’t want people to think I’m being nosey or anything since I’m not yet engaged. If this happens to me, I’ll probably pretend I don’t know the specs, unless it’s a very close friend that asks. But I don’t really think anyone in my group is as interested in diamonds as I am, so I doubt anyone will ask!
She was rude. End of story.
Post # 28
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@polly-pocket I think that’s ridiculous and rude. Normally I’m okay with people asking politely (after all, as a ring obsessed person, I wish I could just ask for specs all the time. I’m curious!), however, she’s ridiculous lol
Post # 29
I am a big fan of white lies when they are meant to avoid someone’s feelings. In this case, if someone is rude enough to ask, I would generally feel more than justified not to have to lie, white or any other color. But in reality, it would probably also depend on who is doing the asking. If the boss or someone like that asks, you might want to fall back on the white lie approach. For most people, I’d say that I’m not comfortable discussing those details or even “Pardon me?!”