(Closed) Pretty pissed about pre-marital counseling…(long vent)

posted 7 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 3
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Annebanan: welcome to the world of close mided Christians.  Instead of showing him how he might find his way to a more Christ like foundation for his life, he shut him out.  Im so sorry this happened to you!

Post # 4
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Annebanan: I’m so sorry that happened to you! Are you a particular denomination? Have you looked around at other churches/Christian denominations and met with any of their pastors? I hope that you will be able to find someone to officiate your marriage that will celebrate your love for the Lord, your husband-to-be’s spirituality, AND your love for each other. 

Post # 6
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I am so sorry. That is terribly close minded of your preacher and he gives Christianity a bad name; do not allow him to deter you, you and your Fiance seem to be extremely supportive of each other!

 

Post # 8
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

WOW!! i cant believe that happened!

I’m glad we ran away… i would have been so upset if that was said to me (my a christian and my hubby isn’t)

Post # 9
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3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That is exactly what happened to me when my Pastor found out Mr. Hedgie is Jewish. We couldn’t find a Pastor or Minister that would marry us. We also had a tough time finding a Rabbi. In the end, once we found our Officients (A Rabbi and my father) we were able to calm down. I really don’t understand how your Pastor could react like that. It just doesn’t make sense. Some people are just so closed minded! In the end, it doesn’t sound like somebody you would want at your wedding anyway. Especially one that is about love for every walk of life, and ot just the Christian one. 

Post # 12
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3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well, it’s pretty clearly stated in the Bible so if you understood his stance on it I’m surprised you put yourself in that situation and that you were shocked by the matieral. Didn’t you know that before? I agree that he shouldn’t have kicked you out or kept you from going through the material but if he’s upholding that doctrine then I can’t fault him for the basic decision. And would you really have wanted to go through material that didn’t support your choices?

If you’re not Jewish you don’t get married in a synagogue. If you’re not Greek Orthodox, a Greek Orthodox priest won’t marry you. I don’t think it’s close minded to follow your beliefs and doctrines and the words of your scriptures.

If it’s an interfaith marriage it should be an interfaith ceremony.

Post # 14
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

And this is why I “dropped out” of Christianity when I was a teenager. I’m so sorry this happened. But if someone is going to write you off like that–you don’t WANT them marrying you. There are plenty of good people out there who will treat you with respect to waste your time on some asshole.

Post # 16
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah we both have a big family… mine is bigger but in the end it was just about us (we had my brother and his brother and his two kids and thats it… plus a photographer) we had a BBQ dinner afterward to annouce it to everyone 🙂 it was best day of our lives… wouldn’t change a thing. (we did actually plan to do a ‘normal’ wedding but drama was just too much)

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