(Closed) Pretty positive I'm ditching my "dream wedding"

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
45533 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Laurenskii:  Yes, you can wear a long dress at a courthouse wedding!

Post # 5
5206 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Laurenskii:  you best believe I wore a gown!

Post # 7
5206 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Laurenskii:  Awww, thanks! 

We don’t regret it at all. It was so easy and our parents and closest friends were still able to be there. A few months later our parents threw us a big celebration but it wasn’t a stressful, $30K affair. We didn’t feel pressured to have that traditional wedding “vibe”. A party with 100 guests and I wore a $34 dress and flip flops. It was great!

Post # 8
3290 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We are doing something similar! Our wedding is just immediate family only. Then we are having a reception in my hometown and one in FI’s hometown, which are way far apart. And THEN like 5 months later we’re having a “friend party” which will be a long weekend in the Keys.

We had a similar issue with people being way spread out. Also, I felt bad asking friends to travel to our wedding knowing that I wouldn’t be able to see them/spend much time with them. If my BFF from college is going to fly in from Thailand, you best believe I’m spending 24 hours hugging her!

Also, we would have had trouble either having it in FI’s hometown or my hometown, since they’re so far apart. We would have had to have a big wedding in my hometown, since I have 4 living grandparents who can’t travel, but I think FI’s big family would have been really, really bummed, since it is SUCH a long way for them.

We’re not having our wedding at the courthouse–we’re doing the ceremony at an outdoor garden and then taking everyone out for a nice dinner afterward. But courthouse weddings are awesome too! And I am wearing a lovely long dress.

Okay, one more thing–sorry for the novel! At a big wedding, I think it’s really important to go around and greet your guests, thank them for coming, etc. But then it can be hard to spend a ton of time with your new hubby! So our receptions will be our time to schmooze/mingle, lol, and our actual tiny wedding will be all about our marriage (hopefully, at least!).

Post # 9
8431 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Laurenskii:  I just saw the most AMAZING wedding recap the other day. They had a city hall wedding and she had a beautiful wedding dress. They they had an amazing reception…..let me see if I can find it!


Post # 11
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Laurenskii:  There is something so romantic and intimate about a courthouse wedding. My fiance were to the point about a month ago where we considered having our minister meet us in our favorite park where we had one of our first dates and just marry us right there. But we decided not to since my parents have put so much time and money into our wedding. We just got sick of the planning and the little details. We’re also pretty private people and don’t like to be the center of attention so we’re both very nervous about that part!

Post # 12
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Laurenskii:  We basically woke up one morning and decided to do the courthouse thing and then just do the bigger wedding later. Well 6 months later and because of a bunch of crazy things no one could come to our “big” wedding (none of our family/friends live in state since we had just moved). So we didn’t even have a ceremony last month – but my in laws, my grandparents, and my best friend all flew/drove in and we just had a nice party 🙂 My only regret is not actually getting pics taken/dressing up more for the courthouse thing since that turned out to be our only ceremony (DH says he wants to renew our vows at some point to see me in a real wedding dress/get to write our vows).

Here are a couple pics from the courthouse thing. The Justice of Peace made us take them basically lol. I looked SO terrible. We didn’t even have our rings at this point! lol.

She didn’t know how to work my phone and made us redo the kiss a few times so I was cracking up.

And our actual wedding celebration last month:

Post # 13
5206 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

There are misconceptions about courthouse weddings. It’s not a cold “sign this, sign this, NEXT in line STEP UP.” You say your vows just as you would at any other venue, exchange rings, take pictures, etc… You just can’t decorate (which means less work!). 

Post # 15
1926 posts
Buzzing bee

This sounds amazing! We’re having our civil ceremony at City Hall too and you best believe I’m wearing my fairytale princess gown! I really want the Pronovias Bermeo. 

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