- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I had to share one special moment I had today. You might want to take a snack for this one, it’s a bit long as I wanted to give the little history…and perhaps a box of kleenex as well. The “waiting for the ring portion” is at the end of this post.
I have had a very distant, nearly non-existent relationship with my divorced father of 5 years. I talked to him and saw him for the last time exactly 5 years ago when he with no notice, left our family and re-started his life in a completely different part of the country(long story-our family fell apart and has not gotten back together since). I grew up daddy’s girl my entire life but quit all connections with him 5 years ago because of the family situation. It was just to difficult for me to go see him in his new life to then go back home where the rest of us were still trying to put ourselves back together.
I found out 5 months ago that my dad as diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer in July of 2009. Devastating news but unfortunately I still could not get myself to get in contact back with him despite his situation.
I found out 5 days ago that doctors have finally given him a month left to live. My boyfriend along with a few co-workers have pushed me to go talk to him and go say my goodbyes despite some internal battles I was dealing with and what happened 5 years ago. After saying I wouldnt go, my heart told me to go and do it.
I went out 2 days ago to see him for the first time in 5 years. It was the hardest thing I have ever seen, yet the best decision I have ever made. We had dinner and laid everything out on the table, all the things and questions that were left unanswered from 5 years ago were answered, tears were shared, hugs were given, smiles were and hand holding was done. I now regret having been stupid enough to wait until he just had a few weeks left to correct and fix things. Blessed I had a second chance.
A picture of us, his face was swollen from the steroids they put him on for pain control:
We found out this morning he had taken a turn for the worst over night and was admitting to hospital this morning into the hospice. They’ve re-evaluated his condition to a week, possibly 2 left. Was able to take a picture with him on a small hill. Boyfriend had to practically carry him up to the top because he’s to weak to walk on his own:
This evening we had dinner with him and boyfriend, while I went to the bathroom asked his permission for my hand in marriage. Adnan said he said nothing for a moment, as he watched tears slide down his cheeks. He became so emotional he couldn’t speak and eventually pulled himself together enough to say yes, and that he couldn’t wish for anyone else to marry me.
Boyfriend and I have talked about putting a beautiful frame up with the last picture posted next to the aisle, as he will not be present for our wedding. He’s been one outstanding man.
Just wanted to share this truly dear moment in my life. Been thanking God every night to have given me the chance to spend an extra day with him.