Post # 1
Darling Husband and I have a bar in the family room. It’s in an armoire and we keep the doors closed most of the time. Darling Husband has his bottles arranged by type and by quality (he’s kinda OCD about it).
We have had our cleaning lady for about a year and I LOVE her. It’s only Darling Husband and I in the house and she comes when we are at work. Over the past few months, Darling Husband has noticed that the amount of alcohol in certain bottles has been going down, even though we haven’t entertained and we never drink that type (Rum, Cheap Vodka). Last week, I marked lines on some of the bottles, and we’re pretty sure there’s alcohol missing.
I haven’t noticed anything else missing from the house. I know I should fire her, but I kinda want to give her another chance. She comes every other week, does a GREAT job cleaning, and is very reasonably priced. She also cleans for other family members and friends who I’ve recommended her to.
I talked to Darling Husband about leaving a note saying “Please do not clean/dust the liquor cabinet. Darling Husband has the bottles specially arranged and does not want them to be moved.” I was hoping this might give her a heads-up that we know what’s going on and she will stop on her own.
It’s very difficult to find a good cleaning person in my area. She has made our lives so much easier and letting her go would be awful. What would you do??
Post # 3
If you are sure she isn’t helping herself to other things in the house, I would put a lock on the cabinet and assume that she gets the message loud and clear.
Post # 4
omg lol this is funny! Sorry but the title made me crack up.
Lock the cabinet and if she says anything say that you think your nephew has been siphoning alcohol! But really you don’t know it was her. When I was a nanny I was accused of stealing the guy I worked for’s pot!!! So ridic! And I didn’t steal any…
Post # 5
I would put a lock on the cabinet also she should get the message.
Post # 6
Since you asked- I would get several empty bottles of various types of liquor. I’d move all the good ones from the cabinet, fill the old empty ones with water, or watered down coke. I’d replace the good stuff with the fake stuff. She’ll take one swig & quickly realize you’re onto her.
Post # 7
haha I love the idea of replacing the real stuff with fake. too funny. Otherwise, I would just lock the cabinet like PPs suggested, and then if you feel like she is helping herself to other things in the house, that’s when the next step needs to happen, have it be a serious discussion or termination of employment.
Post # 8
Oh nooo. Good cleaning help is hard to find, I wouldn’t fire her either. Possibly lock the cabinet or just leave the note. That’s sad, so many people have drinking problems and find crazy ways of hiding it.
Post # 9
Are you SURE???? You can’t really fire her until/unless you have proof – I would get a nanny cam to see for sure.
I would also put a lock on the cabinet – you’ll have to do it anyways if/when you have children. I think a note would work in conjunction with the lock.
This would also make me weary around my valuables…
Post # 10
I wouldn’t fire her if I were you, I would just put a lock on the cabinet. If that’s the only thing she’s been taking, it’s a quick and easy fixt that requires zero confrontation.
I feel like anyone wiht access to your home while you’re gone would be tempted to take SOMETHING, so there’s no guarantee the next person won’t start skimming off the top. You can also consider installing cameras or just telling the maid you’ve installed cameras to deter her from stealing.
Also, remember you don’t know for 100% sure that it’s her, so there’s always a chance you could be wrong!
Post # 11
Don’t fire her, get a nanny cam! If she does it again, confront her with it and give her a verbal warning. THEN bust out the lock.
Post # 12
@Miss Orchard: We were thinking about getting a Nanny Cam, but there is no place else in that room to put it that she dooesn’t clean! She would find it for sure.
I think we are definitely going to lock the cabinet. I hate doubting her, but we’re sure that no one we’ve had over is drinking Bacardi!
Post # 13
I would probably talk with her, not in a mean your fired way but just be inquisitive. You don’t want to start locking things up if shes innocent as that would be offensive. Or like others you could nanny cam the area- but it would need to be immaculately hidden cause she probably dusts and wipes most nooks and crannies.
Post # 14
Couldnt you put the camera IN the cabinet? Like hidden somehow? Give her a note that tells her not to dust/clean the area and then if she opens it to take a swig, SMILE! =)
Post # 15
Be very careful. My in laws hired a local guy in town to help with their yard maintenance – he had been doing so for years. He is a little “slow” so a lot of ppl in our community use him to help him pay his bills as he can not drive/get a “normal” job. He is very nice but has a mental disability of some kind.
They had always suspected that maybe he was sneaking the odd beer from the sugar shack in the backyard (they do maple syrup in the winter 🙂 ) but never thought anything of it. The “guys” from the neighbour hood hang out there through the year, so there are often a few bottles of rye, rum etc and beer. They live in the boonies, so it’s not like this is a place that people would just “find” nor is it in an area where kids could sneak in and cause trouble.
Anyways – last year said man from town/yard guy decided that stealing a little liqor was no longer a good idea idea, he would just drink the whole bottle of rye that was back there. It was a 40oz, and full.
No one was home or around as he has never needed supervision prior to this. My husband came home from work to find said man face down in the ditch, one driveway from his parents. He was in an inch of water and not breathing. He called the paramedics, he was unresponsive (with vitals) and rushed to the hospital. CPR, Stomach pumped, alcohol poisoning and released the next day. The guy is lucky to be alive.
My in laws were questioned about where he would have found alcohol by the police and were ultimately given a warning about locking up their liquor. Had he been killed on his pedal bike on the road as a result of his intoxication, or drove the lawnmower into their large/deep pond they could have been charged.
Not only is it scary that she *might* be stealing, but if she were to get drunk/drive home and kill someone on her way you could end up being involved in a messy situation.
I would definitely lock it! 🙂
Post # 16
My first thought was to put a lock.