(Closed) Pretty upset and discouraged with the wedding planning…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@anon656987:  This does not make you a bridezilla at all in my eyes!! This planning is crazy stressful sometimes. I had a breakdown yesterday from all the stress. It’s normal. And how rude for someone to ask you if you can afford it. It seems like you have everything researched and sorted out to fit your budget. As long as you are doing what makes you are your FH happy then ignore the others and enjoy your special day! Chin up! 

Post # 4
Member
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@anon656987:  So I get a message from an inlaw excluding herself from helping plan the wedding.


Maybe I’m just not getting it OP, and I know it can be tough to get all your thoughts out clearly when you’re really upset, but I’m confused by this. What do you mean, she excluded herself from helping to plan? What did she say? You said all she has been doing to help plan is asking questions…but that’s not really helping – she just messages you saying she doesn’t want to answer any more questions, or what?

Post # 8
Member
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can understand if you feel discouraged, you really don’t need that type of feedback right now. But try to take it as a challenge, that you CAN DO IT! Because I’m sure you can. I’ve arranged lots of sit down dinners through the years at my science department and you can make it nice even on a tight budget. Also, if you’re the DIY type of person, you can even make it super cheap – and people will still enjoy themselves. What I’ve learned from all those parties is that it’s not so much about the venue, the décor or even the food – it’s all about the people. If they are there to have a good time, they will!

 

Just to encourage you a little, we spent approximately $800 on our engagement party last summer (50 guests). That included all the food, two beautiful cakes, free drinks, balloons and even a new pair of $150 shoes for me. ๐Ÿ™‚ We all had a great time, and no broken bank. So I’m sure you’ll rock your $6000!

Post # 10
Member
7694 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds like you’ve gotten things thought out and well planned.  Don’t let Future Mother-In-Law get you down.   

Post # 11
Member
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@anon656987:  Don’t let the negative people get to you. It seems like when people find out you are planning a wedding suddenly they feel entitled to give you their two cents on whatever they feel neccessary. Take it with a grain of salt, smile and nod, and then prove them wrong! Show them you CAN plan an AWESOME wedding on ANY budget. Honestly, $6000 sounds like a pretty decent budget to me. But I also know how things add up!! I HIGHLY recommend a book called “A Practical Wedding”. It has helped me SOO much with keeping things in perspective and learning how to deal with ALL kinds of issues.

Post # 12
Member
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh man, I SO understand about those troubles! My caterer resigned from the venue and we’re now having a restaurant group cater and we were worried it would be too expensive – fortunately in our case it will be basically the same price, but I was really worried for a bit that we’d have to see if we could get our payments back and pick another venue.

You can absolutely do a wedding for 100 people on 6k if you are creative. I had a friend do a wedding for 75ish on 2k – they did a ton of DIY, she baked the cupcakes, they had it at a park, they got it catered but worked on doing it cheaply, and all this stuff. And it was honestly one of the most beautiful weddings I’ve seen. Your wedding may not be the stereotypical banquet wedding, but if YOU are fine with it, so what? It’s your wedding. You are choosing what things you care about, and you’d rather try to do a wedding involving your family and friends on your budget than give up. Clearly you think celebrating with your people is important and will work to throw a good party. And I’m sure you’ll get it done and it will be awesome. All the haters can suck it.

Post # 13
Member
3141 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This sounds very similar to what happened to us and in the end we had our dream venue!!!! A way better one than originally planned. Our catering issues were a disaster and the reality is wedding planning is very stressful especially on a tight budget. Many times I started to say we should elope but my loving wife wouldn’t consider it a reality as she knew I would regret it later. Our guests told us this was the best wedding they had ever been to and everyone noticed all the hard work we put into the DIY details and the unique choices. Just stay within your comfort zone money wise and planning

Post # 14
Member
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@anon656987: Well, I highly doubt that all 100 guests would end up miserable. That would require a rather spectacular fail (like an Alaska wedding in January without heat – serving ice cream)! A few might not like it, but that always seem to be the case and that’s really up to them. What is important is that you’re getting married and that you enjoy the day, which I’m sure you will!

 

Hope the hormones levels down so that you can go back to planning – looking forward to hear how it goes!

Post # 15
Member
7652 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

First, you are in no way a briudezilla. If all you care about is getting married then people’s opinions and all this other money and help stuff shouldn’t matter. Stop discussing wedding with people. I HATE when people say “can you afford that?” or “maybe you should wait until you have more money saved up.” Who the hell are they to manage YOUR money? It is nobody’s business how broke or rich you are, first of all. Second, you can have a small wedding and an affordable one for your budget, and I think you are doing a GREAT job at figuring that out.

Nobody’s knows your business better than you. They just think they do, and they will always be the first to give their opinions.

Post # 16
Member
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You can do this.  I recently had a very lovely “budget” wedding.  Now my guestlist was about half of yours.  My budget started out at $5k, but was somewhere in the $7500 by the time we were done.  I didn’t go into any debt for this, but we made it work and so will you. 

The topic ‘Pretty upset and discouraged with the wedding planning…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors