Post # 1
Hi Bees! I am having trouble deciding if I want the pretty ring that is intricate and has lots of small side stones, or if I want a practical ring that I can wear without worrying. I am a clumsy person, I know that, and Ive lost small stones out of a ring before. I have a very specific price point so I can either get the “prettier” ring Ive always wanted with a smaller moissanite stone (would have to be moco brand), or I can get the solitaire with a plain shank with a slightly bigger better cut stone. I like both of them in their own way, and I feel like the plain shank is more practical for my life and less worry about losing side stones, but Ive wanted the other ring since day 1 of looking. I dont know what to do! What helped you decide?
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
elainebenes123 : I went for what I wanted and didnt even think of what would be practical. I got a cathedral setting that gets caught on EVERYTHING. I’ve ruined so many nice sweaters.
However, I definitely think you should get the ring you want. Get it insured in case you loose and stones and then just enjoy your ring. Better to have what you want! I think worst case would be to have chosen something practical and then have ring regret!
Post # 3
Maybe you can get the one you really want, and then get like a backup ring from Walmart when you do things that you need something sturdier that you don’t have to worry so much about.
Post # 4
My ring is the ring I wanted, but also a very practical ring, so I don’t have much to help with. But I would definitely say get the ring that you want, because you will regret it in the future. And you can protect it by doing things like only wearing your ring when you’re leaving the house. And of course, get insurance on your ring in case you do lose a side stone
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Have you gone to try any rings on? That really helped me a lot. If you try a few on in a jewelry store, you might suddenly realize that the side stones are too flashy for you, or you really actually love them, etc.
Post # 6
For me, the prettier rings were also the practical ones, so I didn’t have to compromise on that.
But even if I did like more ornate rings with side stones, etc., I probably still would have wanted a more secure design because I have an active lifestyle and I know I would feel awful if a stone fell out. I wouldn’t want that extra stress in my life.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! Yes Ive tried them on and I like both, Im just so indecisive. Ugh. I wish I could just afford both and wear one based on how I am feeling that day!
Post # 8
elainebenes123 : I didn’t pick my engagement ring but husband went for pretty over practical. It has pave and is high set and I absolutely love it. But I do take it off a lot so it doesn’t get damaged if I’m working with my hands (cooking, cleaning, sports, etc) so I decided to go practical for my wedding band so that I wouldn’t have to take that off and would always have at least one ring on. It’s the perfect compromise for me.
Post # 9
girlfriendphd : I am also active, and thats how I feel. Dont get me wrong I find both rings beautiful. I just had my heart set on the ornate one and now Im thinking having something simpler will be less worry.
Post # 10
elainebenes123 : Over the years, I have found I am a “setting” gal. I love a setting that has presence and a lot of detail or sidestones. For that matter, I love a setting that is a little bit crazy and out of the norm. I’m working on a design now that is exactly that.
It’s important to be true to your heart when picking something as important as engagement or wedding jewelry. Practical or not, you should get what speaks to your heart. My 15-year anniversary ring is considered an impractical setting. It’s a style of setting that is notorioius for losing stones, and, once a stone is lost, it’s the type of setting that is difficult to repair. I fell in love with it before I realized all of this. I loved the setting from afar at our jeweler’s for at least a year.
When my husband surprised me with it, our jeweler told me that a lot of people would tell me it was a bad setting or that it was not a practical setting. He told me not to let those concerns or advice keep me from wearing my beautiful ring. He said jewelry was meant to be worn and loved, and that I should not be afraid to wear it every day. We insured the ring, and I resolved myself to the idea that, if I lost a stone, I might not be able to repair the setting. And I have worn this ring for 5 years now, with no problems. I wear it nearly every day, and I wear it for most of my daily tasks. I’m a stay-at-home mom, so I do a lot of “icky” daily tasks — ha, ha!
Edit to Add: I don’t raise farm animals or work on a ranch regularly. When doing heavy outside tasks, I wouldn’t wear any ring with a stone or a setting (even a plain/practical one) that could get gunked up with dirt, etc. I opt for a plain metal band at those times. Maybe that could be an option for you? The “pretty”/intricate setting combined with a plain band?
Post # 11
My engagement ring reflects what I consider to be my “every day” look, which is probably more on the practical side. My ring is a solitare cathedral setting.
I have a couple RHRs that are more flashy and have all the sparkly side stones, halos and what not that I wear when I go out all glammed up.
Post # 12
Get one now, and save up to get the second one as an anniversary gift? Otherwise I say get the one you love.
Post # 13
I went for practical, for my occupation, my kids and my clumsy life. I also did not want a high maintenance ring where there was dozens of tiny claws that would need regular checks at the jeweller so I wouldn’t lose a stone. My husband designed it after I gave him a few simple requests. If it snagged I knew I would get frustrated with it and no matter how pretty it was it would end up sitting in a box. But that’s just me, I am a practical person. Go for whatever makes you happiest.
Post # 14
I chose a practical one because I’m a lot of the things you mentioned! Active, clumsy, and I’m also forgetful and don’t like having things that are a chore to look after. If it’s something I’m going to be wearing every day, it needs to be something I’m not nervous about. Or something that looks silly with my fairly casual style.
I might eventually get an extra stackable band or a fancier main ring that I can wear when I’m dressing up or going out, but for now I just need something I love but don’t have to worry about.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I would not get an intricate setting from moissaniteco. I made this mistake and kept losing stones.
I ended up having a similar design remade by Schubach’s. Tons of pave. 5 years and not a single stone lost, and I do not baby it.
Moral of the story, for a simple design, MoCo is fine. I had a solitaire from them that was great. More intricate designs, I would not trust them.