Post # 1
My mother is warning me against money/gift box theft (apparently it’s very common at weddings) – she’s saying that it’s important to have someone guard it and then to ensure that it goes into the car of someone I trust.
That has me thinking – Does someone have to be guarding the money box at all times?
What do you guys suggest to handle this issue?
Post # 3
It depends on the venue. If there’s easy public access like a park or beach, you might want to have someone keep an eye on it; if it’s in a hotel where you need to go past a front desk (even if you don’t have to talk to anyone) then it’s probably ok unattended.
Post # 4
Our plan was to have DH’s cousin (who I am very close with) man the welcome table with the guestbook and card box. She was to then take the cardbox and keep it with her during the reception. Then pass it off to my Maid/Matron of Honor who would put it under the table at her table, with other bridal party members.
But, in the end, our coordinator suggested to just take it before the reception started and lock it away in our best man’s car. She would run to the car to put more cards in the box as the night went on. His car was the only guest car parked in the venue’s garage, so it was in a secure location.
Post # 5
I had a birdcage that you couldn’t fit your palm into, and you couldn’t reach cards wtih your fingers so no one could slip a card out. My Mother-In-Law brought it home for us and knew ahead of time it was her job to do so. I would be a little off-put if I saw security at the card box lol maybe you could put it next to your guest book, (if you have an attendant for that) and no one would be the wiser
Post # 6
I was hearing about the same thing and My aunt volunteered to “guard” the gift table and the card box… lol. It’s just ridiculous that you have to do this at you’re own wedding. What I’m doing is having a huge box that will look obvious if someone tried to actually carry it and on top of that have a box that is difficult to open, I’m also keeping the gift table away from any exits so someone is more likely to see something. I think thats pretty much all that you can do… We also have a security guard outside… Honestly it’ll be pretty hard to steal something from my wedding, lol. And it’s not necessarily the guests that are the problem, there are professional con artists who go into your wedding pretending to be a guest and really no one knows him but are too embarrassed to ask who the hell he is. We’re having a pretty large wedding at a place that is known for weddings so this is a possibility.
Post # 7
I appreciate your responses. I may have the card box moved before the main course comes in – the trouble is deciding who to inconvenience with that task (though I’m sure people would be happy to help).
I hear what a PP said about being put off by ‘guards’ at the box – it’s going inside since our guestbook will be outdoors (weather permitting). I also don’t like the idea of asking someone to watch the money box and miss out on all the other fun stuff going on outdoors.
Wondering about asking our venue to appoint someone to watch the box – though is that risky? I don’t know them very well but feel like they’re good people...
Post # 8
This is something I’m stressing out, we have an easy to access outdoor venue that’s attached to a restaurant with both indoor and outdoor seating, and though it’s semi private, it would be easy to wander in. I think the plan is to have the gift table available during the ceremony, cocktail hour, and first part of dinner, and then have my wedding party put it all in a car as people finish eating. I’m hoping that enough people around it will deter restaurant guests… 🙂
Post # 9
We kept ours within our sight. I had my sister unofficially keeping an eye on it and that was the extent of our “security”.
Post # 10
My Mother-In-Law was really worried about this as well. I think it really depends on your venue and as someone else said, how secure it is. In our case, I pointed out that we only had immediate family and closest friends only so there was no one there we couldn’t trust. Plus in our case, the wedding was at home and we had a box on the kitchen table with any gifts. In our case, it ended up being an uneccesary concern, but depending on your venue, it might be something you just try to get someone to monitor if needed.
Post # 11
This has also popped up – i would like the vintage opened suitcase, but it will be very easy for envelopes to go ‘missing’ I am considering asking Dad to make a secure box to go IN the suitcase…
Post # 12
Don’t invite people who would steal from your card box?
Post # 13
maybe you can put something heavy in the bottom of the cardbox so no one can easily swipe it?
Post # 14
My dad is always worried about that sort of thing too. Our reception site was private but there is always plus ones and vendors that we did not know personally. I had my husband build as a birdhouse card box similar to this
Everybody loved how cute it was and I love the fact that it was completly secured without looking like a box with a lock on the front. The only was to get the cards out was to unscrew the bottom with a drill and if anyone tried to walk out with a giant birdhouse they would have been seen. I also love it because we switched out the roof and it is a birdhouse now for the backyar.
Post # 15
I havne’t even considered this…but I think with it being a golf course, with just our wedding happening that day we should be okay…..
I plan on making our card box look like the stanley cup , so I’m not sure it would be easy to steal…lol
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
this is a real fear, at my first wedding the cards didnt go missing instead someone swiped an envelope of money out of my BIL coat pocket that was hanging on his seat while he was dancing…the money was some he had been given for a trip or something and the only time he saw the person was at my wedding( he lives out of town) someone had to have seen him put the envelope in his inner pocket of his jacket for them to steal it..sadly these things happen. but i agree after the first half our or so i think it would be safe to lock the box in a car….