Preventing Reception Crashers?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
25 posts

I did the 

“We have ____ seats reserved in your honor” 

and also put

“We cannot accommodate people not listed on the RSVP at the wedding” on our site.  

Post # 19
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We are doing a seating chart, putting “we have reserved x seats in your honor”, personally addressing envelopes to ONLY people who are invited, and putting a note on our website.  We are also giving our fathers the OK to remove people who are not on the list (because we have a few issues with family members saying that their spouse is coming and then bringing their kid instead…and we are having a child free wedding).  

I understand that what we are doing is a bit extreme, but we both have huge families, and are not inviting a lot of the children, so we wanted to be as obvious as possible that children were not invited.

Post # 20
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

mgandjonl :  I am going through this now, my wedding is next week.  If I could do my invites over, I would handwrite out “We have reserved two seats for you” or “one seat for you” as clearly people do not read.  Seriously, they don’t.  Then you have people calling you and asking “Can I bring my adult son and daughter in law?”  No, you can’t.  If you have specific people who are known for doing this, tell them firmly and directly before the wedding: “I want you to come however we can only accommodate you and your husband.”  Period.  No apologies.

Post # 21
31 posts

We wrote “___/2” or “__/1” on the RSVP cards with the idea that anyone who wrote “4/2” to include their uninvited kids or something would get a phone call for clarification. one aunt never sent the rsvp card but sent me a facebook message saying “the whole family is coming.” I had my mom call to specify that we are having a small event so unfortunately only aunts and uncles were invited, not cousins etc. she understood and everything worked out. Because the venue is small and we only have so many chairs, we definitely are having a seating chart. Otherwise couples could get split up and old friends might not get to sit together. It avoids that awkwardness of looking for a spot. We’re doing it by table, not seat. To each their own! But you are not crazy to be proactive about uninvited guests!

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