Post # 1
three weeks ago, i came home from an exam and my fiance and every item he has ever owned were gone. no note, no explanation, nothing..only a brief email a few days later saying he was sorry and needed time. we were engaged for a year, planned on having a destination wedding this spring, but we hadn’t finalized any details because of monetary reasons. we have been together for three years…our relationship was enviable and we really didn’t have any problems, just small things everyone deals with. we always got along extremely well and hardly fought. he had problems with his self esteem, and lied compulsively at the beginning of the relationship, but we got through that quite well. another thing i should add…he had a gf for 7 years before me, she gave him an ultimatum and he never spoke to her again. he is 33, and doesn’t have a stable job…..how does a woman get over this type of situation?
Post # 3
Oh man, that is so unfortunate. If you two have been together for three years, with minor problems, I know this sounds bad, but maybe there was something else going on while he was with you. I think you could do so much better than him. Compulsive liars do seem to get better over time, but maybe you didn’t notice that he may have been lying again. I’ve had to deal with that in the past too; it sucks.
All the best. Try to find someone to talk to about this. WB is a great place to start because it is anonymous, and no one will judge you. But still try to find a close friend or family member so you can talk it out.
Post # 4
@turkos: I also tend to think there’s something else going on here…this just seems so sketchy on his part. Sorry you are having to go through this…but as much as it hurts right now, it may just end up being a blessing in disguise.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry! That sounds horrible!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Sounds to me like you have your answer, when he gets stressed he runs away. Cut your losses and move on. At least he did this before you got married. I am so sorry but how can you ever trust him again?
Post # 7
That’s horrible. A good relationship is one where you can communicate and share your fears. It may not seem like it now, but it’s better that it happened now and not after you were married. He doesn’t deserve to be with you.
Post # 8
I think you get over it by realizing you dodged a bullet by him leaving you instead of being married to a 33 year old who can’t hold down a job.