Price of ring compared to wedding cost?

posted 1 year ago in Parties
  • poll: Which did you spend more money on?

    Rings

    Wedding

    About the same

  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    My engagement ring was about $500 and our wedding was about 7k for just over 100 people.

    Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I actually don’t see the ring as a symbol of our love in a way that is proportional to cost.  My ring was under 3k and our wedding is about 25k.  To me the wedding might be one day but it is a huge celebration of our marriage, our love and the next step of our lives while celebrating and sharing that with friends and family. 

    To me the ring is just a ring and I wouldn’t want to spend more on that than the wedding. 

    The wedding involves other people, so if you have a 35k wedding with 100 people then per person you are only spending 350 on each person. Obviously you are spending way less once you factor in dress cost, venue, photographer etc which is all for you and not guests.  I couldn’t imagine having a 20k+ diamond on my finger and scrimping on costs the things that are to treat my friends and family. Experiences and memories are more important to me than physical things. 

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    We put more money toward getting custom rings made with my choice of diamond size to avoid the desire to upgrade in the future and have our perfect forever ring set made. I’d say spend more on what makes you happier. I think this applies to everyone differently because we spent as much on rings as some people do on a wedding and it would be quite outrageous to have spent even twice as much on the wedding, 35x would’ve been getting close to $1million. A large wedding was not a priority for us so we had a party for family and friends and our ceremony was a private elopement for the two of us on top of a mountain across the country. We had a photographer come later that day and I still get the photo book out at least twice a month and am filled with joy by the beauty of that day and how we were able to say our vows. To each their own!

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2019

    If that’s the way you both feel, then I don’t think it’s “weird”, but I also don’t think it’s right or wrong. 

    I personally do agree with pp however that the significance of the ring (s) isn’t “proportional to cost”. I think it’s an important symbol, but not made more or less so by the pricetag. We’re on a budget, and our wedding will cost ~$12,000 total. I would have been furious if fiance spent that much on a ring lol, if he had that much for a ring I would rather we do some traveling or something. Granted, I wouldn’t want to spend much more on our wedding than we are even if we had extra money either. I do agree it’s ultimately just one day. But a ring is also just a ring. I absolutely LOVE mine, it was thoughtfully chosen and locally made and it’s one of a kind, and cost about $600. I wouldn’t personally feel any more loved or engaged/married if it cost 20x that. 

    That’s just my perspective though, and you’re allowed yours! Sometimes I do wish we’d just had a gorgeous elopement for half the wedding cost haha, but we made our choice and it will be lovely for what it is, as will whatever you and your fiance decide is right for you ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I think all of our rings (my engagement ring and both our wedding bands) in total cost about 1k. Our wedding cost like 23k. The difference in my opinion is that we could find rings that we absolutely love within that budget, but to have a wedding that we absolutely loved as well that’s what it cost (65 guests). 

    Also it is very easy to upgrade a ring down the line, but you usually only get one wedding day with your current partner. 

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2019

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    elodie2019 :  I totally agree with that as well! ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    Yeah my dream ring was actually really reasonable. Like less than $3k. But our wedding was over $30k for 300 people. It’s really whatever you want to spend your money on. We wanted all of our friends and family there and for them to have the best time! All of them said that they could really tell that we cared about what a great time they had. That made us so much happier than a gigantic diamond ever could make me!

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    elodie2019 :  I love this thread because I had the same thoughts, my ring is something I wear every day and the wedding is over in one day ๐Ÿ˜‚ However, I wanted a nice wedding and a nice ring so it was tough. My fiancé spent $33k on my ring and while we set a 40k budget for the wedding, it looks like it will cost $55k-$60k when all said and done 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    The wedding will be more, but that’s because we were fortunate enough to get a hand-me-down family diamond, so the sentimentality is awesome and it wasn’t very expensive to get re-set into a modern setting. We also went for fairly plain wedding bands…he has a lightweight white gold band, I have a thin 3/4 eternity band and thin plain gold band. All together, the rings cost like…1/7th of our very budget-conscious small destination wedding. We’re excited to celebrate with family, but it’s just one day. 

    Post # 14
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Our wedding was a little more than 2x my rings.  I feel like they were pretty average spending for each – about 10k rings, 22k wedding for 140 guests (about 15k of that going to the reception.  I spent next to nothing on my dress and most other stuff)

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee

    DH spent around $11k on my rings, but that was with me throwing in 22 sidestones from an old ring I had. Our wedding was $10k. The budget for one did not affect the other. 

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