Post # 16
I voted for wedding since it has so many more costs to it and its virtually impossible to save money on your wedding. We just had to up our budget cause of last minute costs/things I forgot .
My actual engagment ring is a promise ring and it cost about $250 with taxes so we were able to cut costs there.
My fiance wanted me to pick out my own ring so I purposely choose a promise ring. Promise rings look like mini engagement rings that are small and dainty and I happen to really like small and dainty. I am not going lie their was a gorgus diamond engagement ring that I coveted that is just a bit bigger stone size then my ring. It was also triple the price and so I just couldn’t justify it. The thought of my fiance putting him and us in financial strain for years just to buy me a fancier ring right before we spend crazy amounts of money on a wedding seemed silly.
Post # 17
We spent $1.5k for my dream wedding set using an heirloom diamond. Our wedding is costing $15k.
I would have never wanted a $15k ring! I would be afraid to wear something so expensive all the time, and don’t care enough about jewelry to justify the cost. The wedding is a big life event that I can justify some extra cost to, but even then I’m trying to keep the costs down so we can save for things that will be more helpful to us in the long run, like a down payment on a house, or money for a new car.
Post # 18
I don’t think you can compare the ring to the entire wedding. I think a better comparison is how much you spend on the wedding dress vs. rings.
A dress is worn once and a ring is worn most likely forever.
Post # 19
elodie2019 : playing devil’s advocate, I could argue that if the symbolism of the ring is important then actually the cost should be much smaller as a simple ring would suffice, the bling would be a distraction from the symbolism.
Our rings altogether cost about 2.5K and our wedding about 10k. For that, it seems ridiculous to only have 17 pave diamonds, a tanzanite stone and 4mm of white gold plus 5mm of palladium. When for 10k I bought a wedding dress, 2 bridesmaid dresses, 2 flower girl dresses, 3 faux fur shawls, wool for shawls and cardigans for flower girls, hired 6 morning suits. Had the church ceremony including legal fees and bell ringing, hired two vintage cars. Had 3 fresh seasonal bouquets, 2 flower girl bouquets, church flowers (which were reused at the reception). Paper/card/craft bits for invitations, orders of service, table plan, thank you cards and favours. Reception which included DJ, centrepieces, table covers and linens, a 3 course meal for 65 people and 3 glasses of wine (UK open bar not standard), an evening buffet for 110 people and a night in the honeymoon suite. Hair and makeup for me, mum and bridesmaids, gifts for parents, bridal party and toys to entertain children. Plus 9 hours of 2x photographers, many hours after for editing and putting an album together, a photo album, 4x small copies of our album, some prints, a small slideshow of ceremony photos at our reception and some individual prints. Wedding cake (lovingly made by my mum). It seems like we got a lot more for 10k than we did with the jewellery and that’s before we get into the memories of the day.
However, our honeymoon cost 4.5k and was the highest individual item. Totally worth it and where we wanted to focus our money.
Post # 20
Ring was $12,000 wedding was $7,000- I would have eloped but my Husband wanted a wedding, so we compromised and had a very intimate 30 person wedding! I would do it the exact way if given the chance all over again! Sometimes I do feel guilty over the price of my ring, but I love it so much, and I was so happy with our wedding day.
Post # 21
We both agreed on not having a traditional wedding long before we were engaged. We did want a wedding but with just the two of us. Focused on us relaxed and happy.
In my 37 years I have yet to meet a man who was into weddings and the planning and the whole ordeal. Like omg have you seen the center pieces we picked out? Took us 7 vendors and 4 month to decide on them…. yeah. That doesn’t happen. So my husband is a typical man and didn’t care for that either. Me, I haven’t been to a wedding which blew me off my chair. It was always costly and halfway boring. It’s just not my thing. We didn’t need 150-300 (150 would be his closest family) people to validate or celebrate with us. It was just never us. We “eloped” to Hawaii and had a great wedding ceremony we both loved, enjoyed and which made us beyond happy.
The memories will always be in our hearts (and in print). So on the rings we spent about 10x the price of the wedding. Next week is our wedding anniversary and I still look at my hand and I am beyond happy because it reminds my of my husband, the day he he asked me to become his wife, the day he looked at me and said I do. It’s with me at all times ready to trigger the happiest memories at a glance.
So yes. The rings were always a priority to us.
Post # 22
MiaSuperstar : In my 37 years I have yet to meet a man who was into weddings and the planning and the whole ordeal.Like omg have you seen the center pieces we picked out? Took us 7 vendors and 4 month to decide on them…. yeah. That doesn’t happen. So my husband is a typical man and didn’t care for that either.
I actually disagree, perhaps it is more of a generational thing with 37 being on the tail end of an older more traditional generation. Every single couple I know who have gotten married in the last few years have all been late 20s and the men have been very involved with the wedding. My fiance was just as involved as I was, including centerpiece planning.
Post # 23
Well we eloped and had a party so the whole thing was about $4k. Our rings were more than that.
Post # 24
zzar45 : I dunno. I just can relay my personal experiences and what my husband tells me his guys friends told him…
Most weddings I have been to, I was a friend of the grooms and they all said that they were just happy for it to be over… also I never had friends who got married in their 20’s neither have a been to a wedding of someone in their 20’s so I don’t know if that’s an age and/or a generation thing.
Post # 25
My dress was still more expensive then my ring (even though it was a sample dress). It was a gift from my Mom and step Dad and was the type of dress(princess ballgown) I always wanted. I am totally okay with spending more on the dress because like I said earlier I prefer smaller stones anyways.
If my parents had given us the amount of the dress so we could buy a more expensive ring instead. I would been unhappy in the long run because I would have had to buy a dress I didnt love.
I guess it really depends on your dress and ring style. The ring we were able to find for cheaper cause it’s a promise ring instead of a engagement ring and cause it’s small and dainty.
I do realize how funny it is I like the smaller rings yet want the poofiest ballgown possible.
Post # 26
elodie2019 : e-ring was 24-27k, wedding was 87k-ish. So, more spent on the wedding. It was not my decision.
If I had it my way, I would have invested top dollar on the ring, and had a private 3 day 10k destination wedding with 6 of my closest relatives and paid for their attendance and our experiences.
Post # 27
Combined my engagement ring and wedding band were around $3000. We, personally, did not spend anything on our wedding as my parents gifted us the cost of the wedding (around $12K for 65 people). Had we paid for it ourselves it probably would have cost less than the rings as we would have done a much smaller/intimate wedding.
Post # 28
My e-ring cost was around 20k, and our wedding will end up costing around 60k. I personally wanted to elope, but FH wanted an actual wedding, and he is way more excited about the whole thing than I am, (I still mention that we could elope, although we are only 5 months away)
Post # 29
My ring was 7k and we got married at City Hall since we wanted to buy a house. Going on 2 years married this fall and no regrets. Love our house and my ring 💁🏻♀️
Post # 30
Ring cost around $10k and so did our wedding. I would have done without the wedding and used the extra $10k towards my ring if it had been up to me.