Post # 31
We spent $149 on my engagement ring, $40 for both of our tungsten carbonite wedding bands, and around $4500 on our wedding and reception for 40 people. This includes my dress, all of the wedding party’s clothes, housing his family and my family for the wedding weekend, the whole shebang.
We loved everything about our church wedding and restaurant reception (w/open bar) and would not change anything. 🙂
Post # 33
We spent 1500 on my ering and 4000 on a small wedding for 20. Our wedding bands cost 2000 together. I would have much rather not had the wedding at all and spent it on a bigger ering and more honeymoon spending money, but that’s with hindsight knowing that my wedding was awful.
It’s our 10th anniversary of being a couple next year and am hoping our finances will be in a place where we can justify getting a new ering. Fingers crossed!
Post # 33
Weird my reply disappeared, but here it is again:
Everyone has different priorities. I had a dream ring and my boyfriend came through (not engaged, but he already bought it). I have never been a “wedding girl.” I’ve always hated tv shows about weddings and honestly kinda dread attending them. I really doubt we’ll end up spending more on the wedding than the rings. I’m hoping our wedding will be around 10k or less. Neither of us have a lot of close friends and we both have small families. I’ll be surprised if we come up with more than 50 people to invite. I already have a dress and if cost under $300. I’d rather do a Spotify playlist of my choosing than hire a DJ because I don’t trust other people’s music tastes haha. I know I must be in an extremely small minority here from what I’ve read, but I genuinely do not care about wedding photography and probably won’t even have a photographer! I just want to make sure I get one good picture to hang up. I don’t need 500 pictures of almost the same thing. I don’t need a limo or vintage car for my wedding day and can’t imagine spending money on that. To me, the ring lasts forever. The wedding lasts a few hours. Also, I don’t want to upgrade my ring. I want to wear the same rings on my finger for the rest of my life.
Post # 34
Right! Cost per use I can justify our ring purchases!
But the wedding day.. it’s a few hour event and… these prices are depressing. The venue I love has a 25k food minimum and we are doing a small wedding, I just can’t spend the money. FH is like, it costs what it cost and I’m like.. nope. I’m pretty sure Jeff Bezos started Amazon for less than the food alone! haha
I absolutely love stones that were passed down! So much meaning! Completely agree, so excited to share with friends, but it’s one day. So its hard to justify the cost and I dont wan’t to regret spending it.
Post # 35
Definitely agree, neither are worth putting you in financial strain. Rings can always be upgraded!
Why does something symbolic have to be plain? How would bling take away from the symbolism, if the ring itself is the symbol? Rings really are soexpensive! Love that your honeymoon was a priority!
Don’t feel guilty! I am sure you smile and feel smitten everytime you look down at your ring.
I feel the exact same way about my ring! When I look at it it brings me so much love and I think of him and how lucky we are to have found this love! I would love to elope in Hawaii!!
Right there with you on the poofy ballgown! When else could I ever wear one?!
That sounds absolutely perfect!! I value a vacation together way more than the wedding day.
We’re still discussing eloping as well! The dream wedding in my head is looking about 60k and I just cant justify it.
Love this! Best of both! Ring forever and home you own!
Post # 37
I’ve loved reading these responses! So interesting to see everyone’s priorities! It’s making me rethink eloping! I always tell FH, you are what I want!.. the ring, the dress, the wedding, that’s all just icing.
Post # 38
out of state move a month after getting married 15k.
We are an older copy and this was a second wedding for both of us.
Post # 39
Both wedding rings + engagement ring were about $2k for all 3 together.
The wedding was about $24k and honeymoon $4k. I can’t imagine wearing a ring that expensive on my hand! I’d be terrified of losing it or damaging it all the time! Nor can I imagine loving a ring more than the one I’ve got.
Our priority was having all our loved ones around us on the wedding day, so the main expense was food (a third of the budget. We had 120-ish people and this was a cheap venue for the area).
Post # 40
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I feel like this is a bit of a strange comparison only because in most cases the cost of the wedding will be hugely affected by other factors like # of guests, if you live in an expensive city, etc. I feel it’s a little bit of an apples and oranges thing.
Post # 41
it doesn’t have to be plain, people can have whatever rings are most appealing to them and within their budgets. My rings are not plain. However, the symbolism of a wedding ring can be achieved with a very simple (and low cost) ring. The precious stones, engraving, custom designs, more expensive metals are all for the aesthetics of the ring. A lot of people get distracted by the aestethics of the ring and forgot what giving/receiving the ring is actually about.
Post # 42
My husband’s ring was cheaper than the marriage license. It was my ring that blew it out of the park compared to those costs because of the fact that we didn’t have a wedding.
Post # 43
Rings (my engagement ring & both of our wedding bands) = $7,300
Wedding + honeymoon = $6,500
Post # 44
My ring was a little under 3k and our wedding hopefully will be 10k or less. I want to start saving for a home and to start a family so would like a very frugal wedding.
Post # 45
Thats the budget I would like for our wedding and honeymoon too but his family is large and seems like we will be stuck inviting eveyone.