Post # 1
I’m going to be having two bridal showers next summer. One will be a “money” shower, which seems to be a pretty common thing in the Greek culture (FI is Greek) the other will be one that Fiance and I will register for that my mom is throwing for me.
I picked the store we will register at and started looking at some things.
One thing I want is $450 (its a Le Creuset Pot) and I want a few Henckel knives (one of them is $200) I feel bad for putting these on my registry, they are things I want and will buy for myself when we are married so should I just leave them off the list because of the high prices?
Bottom line, whats the maximum cost for per item that is acceptable for a registry? I don’t want to come off as a greedy brat!
Post # 3
@Stephville: oh boy. Once you wade through the commentary on your money shower, hopefully you’ll get some good advice.
We personally are not going to register for anything over $100. We are keeping things super simple. I’m sure you’ll be told “if you want it, register for it!” but I personally would not put the $450 pot on there.
Post # 4
I would leave them on but make sure to put a lot of lower cost items on there as well. Give people a bunch of options in different price ranges… who knows- someone might be generous! As well, most registries offer a discount (10% off is the most common I have heard) on any items not purchased for you after your shower is over, so why not take advantage of that.
Post # 5
I don’t think theres a maximum price to put on your registry, just make sure you have items in all price ranges. Don’t feel bad about putting expensive things on, just keep in mind that you may not receive them. Also, sometimes people go in together on larger gifts, so you might as well add everything you want.
Post # 6
It really depends on what is the norm for your social circle/family.
We registered for a Kitchen Aid mixer which my mom bought, and our bridal party bought our luggage as a group gift. The rest of our gifts were in the $50 range.
Post # 7
I agree, there’s no max. Maybe a group wants to purchase a gift together. As long as you have a decent number of gifts under $50, as well as things in the $50-$100 I think you’re fine.
Post # 8
There’s no max. We have a $600 TV and a $400 memory foam mattress on ours. We really want the mattress, but no one HAS to buy it. My aunts yelled at me for not registering for appliances (!!!), even though we live in an apartment and can’t exactly just get new appliances.
Post # 9
@Stephville: I think there is no maximum cost, as long as there is a healthy range. In my social circle (DC suburbs, upper middle class), most people spend between $50-$100 on the shower gift. Many people have spent more and many people have bought multiple gifts. What I put on the registry fell in this range: 10% under $20, 20% from $20-$50, 20% from $50-75, 20% from $75-$100, 20% from $100-$150, 20% from $150-200, and 10% over $200. I have found the pricer gifts have been bought, so don’t worry about it as long as you hae a range.
Post # 10
@Stephville: Register for the expensive stuff and the inexpensive stuff too! My sisters and I like to go in on gifts together and I know a lot of other ladies do too. Put that FABULOUS Le Creuset pot on your registry and cross your fingers! …you just never know! 🙂
Post # 11
People may go in on something larger together. I would make sure to have lots of things in lower price ranges, and then some higher priced things are ok. I usually give around $50 gifts for bridal showers, but the last one I went to, I went in with a few other people and together we spent $200. So you never know what people will do.
Post # 12
I’d put anything you truly want and need on there, regardless of price. Just make sure you have a nice range of options. You never know, some people end up being very generous or sometimes people join together to buy a bigger item.
Post # 13
It probably depends on your social circle, but putting $500+ items on a registry is the norm in my circle. People even put furniture priced much much higher. It doesn’t bother me, if people don’t want to buy it then don’t! Some people like to go in on a much larger item together, that’s great too. Just make sure you have plenty of items in a range of price points for guests to choose from. At the end of the day, a registry is a wish list of thinks you would like/need, not a demand for guests to buy them.
Post # 14
I agree with everyone – put a range of items. I also agree with @badabing88: that $450 is a little much for a shower. I would register for gift cards so you can buy the more expensive items for yourself. I would be put off seeing items that expensive on a registry.
And to answer your questions, we give between $150 and $500 for a wedding gift depending on how much we like the people. I would spend around $75 to $100 on a shower gift.
Post # 15
Register for all price points. Some things you might get for the shower, others for the wedding. It may be that some friends will go in together on a big ticket item, I know that around where I live it’s pretty common for bridesmaids to go in together on a kitchenaid mixer or dyson vacuum.
Post # 16
Wow! I really want to thank you all for your replies. It was really helpful to hear all your opinions! I think I will end up registering for the more costly things (in addition to the more average cost items) just for the simple fact of, if I don’t get them as @MissLibra: said maybe I could get 10% off if they aren’t pruchased for the shower! Thats great!
I have no idea what people are going to want to spend which is a big part of me feeling bad for the more costly items. I haven’t been to a bridal/baby shower with pretty much any of the ladies that will be there.. They are mostly all going to be my mom’s friends, some of whom I know very well and some who I don’t know at all.
I’ve only been to two showers in the last 2 years, and they were both “money” showers haha..
Thanks again bee’s, you’ve made me feel a lot more comfortable picking what I want/need!