Post # 1
Hi everyone! I need some advice….My b/f & I have been together almost 2 years. I’m 34 and he’s 33. We’ve discussed marriage, kids, the whole shebang! I asked not to pick out a ring, but have provided him with ideas. The last time we discussed was back in April while on vacation. Lately, he’s been distant and talking about making a large purchase,I.e. a large truck.We both work long hours and don’t live together, so the majority of the time we spend together is Fri-Sun. Lately, hes been wanting to spend Fri nights by himself at his place. I asked him what was wrong and he said that work is getting to him and ‘its a part of his personality that sometimes I just need time not around anyone to relax’. Understandable. Everyone needs time alone. This concerns me long term. Secondly, he’s been talking about buying a truck. Not just any truck, but a truck that’s over 50k. He works for an automobile manufacturer that provides him with a stipend to pay for an auto. He’s even priced one out. I guess what I’m getting to is…did all this marriage talk scare him and, maybe he’s not ready???
Post # 3
I hate to say this but, I really don’t think he is ready. I think he cares more about having a new toy(truck) than your future together.
Post # 4
Before my DH proposed, he would talk about getting a new car. I told myself, we have been together for 3 years, he knows I want to be married and I hoped he did too. But if he would have bought that car and told me that he could not afford a ring, I would have flipped.
Post # 5
My SO just went out and bought a new motorcycle; I know how you feel. SO had also been looking at rings but told me he isn’t ready to purchase one till next year. At first I was mad at him for choosing a bike over us, but later realized that this final purchase was a last hooray as a single young man before we get engaged/ married. I know my time is coming eventually, so I’m enjoying the time left spent as a gf. Best of luck with the waiting.
Post # 6
Handsome and I have been going through the same thing he wants to buy a quad for himself (so he doesn’t have to use mine) when I asked him why they cost more than a ring he said he wanted have one before we got married so we didn’t have to worry about it later. I told him that doesn’t make any sense because its only him saving up for a ring once we’re married we could use both our incomes to buy a quad. He could get it faster that way He hasn’t brought up buying a quad before a ring in a couple of months he also hasn’t brought up anything about a ring either but what man will not mine at least