Post # 1
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Helper bee
So here’s the deal. The majority of my wedding party and key folks will be from out of state. (Like my mom who is making my gown and his stepfather who will play a few guitar solos).
My mom has been posting comments on my wall about the wedding planning. We’re having a small event with no more than 40 or 50 people. I don’t want some of my other un-invited friends seeing these comments and getting upset. But a Facebook group would make it easier to exchange info with those that are involved in the planning and such.
Should I make a private group or just leave it to email & phone calls? And if I do make a group, how truly private is it?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I would just ask your mom to send you her comments via email, instead of on fb. If she isn’t able to remember to do that, I doubt she would be able to remember to post in the private group either.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
@Leprechaun: LOL! You have a very good point.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
@Leprechaun: And coincidentally, my mom is from your neck of the woods.
Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
I have a private page for my wedding party and then when it gets closer to the date, I will start inviting guests to view the page.
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
I personally would opt to use Google Documents instead.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I would advise against it. Even if the group is private, anyone can still see that it exists even if they can’t see the posts or members. It seems like a subtle way to tell people that they’re not invited (even if it isn’t it could come off that way), and Facebook probably isn’t the best way to do that.
I agree with Leprechaun, ask your mom to private message you on facebook or email you about the wedding.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I think this is a great idea. The fact that you are getting married is no big secret, right? So if people notice that you have a page, what would be the harm? You could even name it something vague to cover your bases. I have found that most people check FB at LEAST every day or two, and if I want to communicate with several people at once, FB is a great tool. I say go for it!
Post # 10
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Busy bee
@abbyful: I second the google docs…..
Post # 11
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Helper bee
One of my friends made a group for the bridemaids, and once everyone joined she left the group. It was a great was for us the be able to plan the shower/bachelorette withouth ruining any the surprise! It was very helpful!
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
You can make it a secret group that no one can see unless you let them. I have one for my wedding party and it’s nice to be able to get messages out quickly.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
I think it is a great idea! You can keep the facebook group hidden except to members so uninvited guest won’t feel awkward. As long as the people who you want invite are FB savvy I think its a great, quick idea.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
My aunt made one for mine. I like it! Especially since they were posting stuff before so everyone could see. My FI’s cousin wrote me telling me that he loved it and all the info. Although we also have a wedding website, so that helps too.
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
I made one for my bridal party once we were engaged, and it’s been great for discussing shoes/clothes/dates/etc without having to paint my FB wall full of wedding gab. Plus, they usually get a notification that there’s a new post in there, so it’s easier to check when something goes up.
You can make sure it’s set so that people can’t even see that it exists, and then direct your mom to post solely in there or send you/other planners an email.