- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I’m recently engaged and excited to be married but not so excited about the wedding planning and guest list. My fiancé and I both work for a large company and have many friends we work with plus have many friends between us. So our guest list could get rather large. To avoid the guest list stress and for other reasons, we are leaning toward a ceremony with just the two of us at an exotic location. We are not interested in throwing a party or reception afterward either because we just want to focus on our ceremony and honeymoon and settling in to married life.
However, we are unsure how to announce or handle questions from friends about our decison. We are both 40 and this is the first marriage for both of us. As you can imagine, our friends and family are ecstatic. A few close friends and our co-workers have mentioned throwing us a shower as well.
Over the years, I have hosted many baby and bridal showers for close friends and co-workers, and I am sure they want to return the gesture. My question is do we still allow our friends to throw us showers? And is it poor etiquette to register for gifts? Our close friends are telling us we must register no matter what we do! Also, do we send out an announcement in advance to let everyone know our plans or wait until afterward? Any advice would be appreciated.