(Closed) Pro breast feeding, but making a decision that means I won't be able to.

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: If you were anti formula and needed a breast reduction you would;
    Wait until you had finished having children to have the reduction and deal with the back problems : (14 votes)
    14 %
    Get the reduction now and deal with breast feeding issues once you're ttc/pregnant/have given birth : (88 votes)
    85 %
    Other (is there another option?) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Major hugs. I am so sorry you are having to make this decision. I am completely pro-breastfeeding, and I absolutely think you should go with the surgery. While feeding your children in the best way possible is important, like PP said, it is also important that you are able to be a healthy mother to them, and not flat on your back because of issues!

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Mischka:  my short and sweet answer…just get the reduction. I had one done when I was 17 and my doctor said that I should have no problem breast feeding. Honestly, you could not have the reduction and still not end up being able to breast feed, you never know what your body (and baby!) will decide to do

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    My personal opinion is that women should do their best to breast-feed except in exceptional circumstances – but I would deem this exceptional.  Sounds like your breast size is really affecting your health and quality of life.  Go for the reduction asap!

    Post # 20
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    Newbee

    I was bottle fed and I’m all good!

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Everyone I know who has had this procedure has been THRILLED with the results. Like ecstatically thrilled and feeling like they have a new chance at life.

    If I were you I would get the surgery for sure and work on finding formulas that you can live with. Maybe organic, homemade? I know very little about formula except that it provides nutrition just fine for babies!

    I am also pro-breastfeeding but am pretty much counting on having to deal with PPD and taking meds that make that impossible. So I get that.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    There’s only a 5% chance you won’t be able to breastfeed… I think suffering for 12 years is insane compared to those odds!

    And if you do wind up unable to breastfeed, there are milk banks out there! Your babies could always have donor milk.

    Post # 23
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    625 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I am pro breast feeding but this issue impacts your health. There is a slight risk of not being able to I would discuss this with the doc that you really want to be able to breast feed and make him or her aware of your plans. I totally wanted to breast feed but i will not be able to because of medication that i will have to stay on while pregnant (which is a risk enough) and will not be able to breast feed….

    I was formula fed as a kid. I am a responsible, educated woman, I dont think that my mom did me any harm because i was  bottle fed…

    Post # 24
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think that it’s more important to focus on being as healthy and happy as you can be now rather than focus on a problem that may end up not being a problem.

    You’re in pain, it’s obviously an issue that really bothers you and it’s not certain that you won’t be able to breast feed.

    I’m in a slightly similar situation, although I started having my operations 13 years ago. Because of the type of operation I had to have, I am most likely unable to breast feed and that makes me really sad. However, if I had continued without the operations, my mental health would most definitely have been such that I would not even have been willing to date someone, let alone marry and want to have children with someone!

    Sometimes, you really do have to put yourself first.

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Mischka:  Hun, you need to just do what’s right for you, right now. Don’t wait. It is NOT selfish. Think about how much healthier you will be able to be once you have the surgery. Being active and healthy will allow you to carry and birth healthier babies. Nowadays formula is the least of your worries – I think it’s just as important, if not more important, that you are healthy during your pregnancy when the baby is developing. If you are having trouble walking now, you can’t possibly stay active and be at your best during your pregnancy.
    Imagine, you could wait and STILL have issues breastfeeding anyhow.

    No guilt – do what’s best for your health and don’t put it off. 

    Post # 27
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Please get the reduction, honestly what happens if you don’t get the surgery and you still cant bf due to unforseen circumstances. As for dontated Bridesmaid or Best Man. if you use a milk bank they do make sure it is safe for the infant to drink.  I know we had to use it for my little boy.  Also you do have to take into consideration, that you may not be able to Boyfriend or Best Friend and would have to do formula. Ideal, no but babies survive on formula and do well. 

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m pro breastfeeding but this is affecting your quality of life and who knows how long you’ll have to deal with this by the time you have a child.  Furthermore you can severely hurt your back.  If thats the case not being able to run after your children due to back pain is also a negative.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I agree with PP- get the reduction! Though breatfeeding is a wonderful thing, you will be a better mom if you are happy and healthy and not in constant pain. 

    Post # 30
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    882 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Mischka:  It sounds like this is a serious quality of life issue and you need to weigh the pros and cons for you personally.  As much as I want to breast feed my children, I would also want to be able to live a normal, healthy and unlimited life.

    Think about how your breasts impede your day to day life and how much more they may become problematic during pregnancy and breastfeeding.  Not to mention, the burden while you are trying to parent.

    I want to be an active and involved parent and I, personally, feel that my ability to do so far outweighs the benefits of breastfeeding.  I know many healthy and extremely intelligent people who were formula fed.  It is only one aspect of the many that make up a healthy baby.

    Post # 31
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Mischka:  have you eve tried a compression bra or a Tata tamer? Might be better than a standard bra. Good luck either way 

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