(Closed) Pro breast feeding, but making a decision that means I won't be able to.

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: If you were anti formula and needed a breast reduction you would;
    Wait until you had finished having children to have the reduction and deal with the back problems : (14 votes)
    14 %
    Get the reduction now and deal with breast feeding issues once you're ttc/pregnant/have given birth : (88 votes)
    85 %
    Other (is there another option?) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 32
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    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper

    This is tough. I myself had a breast reduction when I was 16 because I had so much pain it was really impacting my QOL, not to mention all the other stuff: not being able to find clothes, issues with exercise, etc etc. But I will tell you my surgery didn’t make a difference in my back/neck pain at all really. So if you’re mainly motivated by pain, I would exhaust all kinds of other options first–chiropractic, myofascial release, physical therapy, etc. 

    It’s a hard decision when you really want to breast feed. My doctor at the time said he would do his best to leave as much tissue in tact as possible so that I would be able to have a good chance (I don’t have kids yet) to bf. At the time, I didn’t know enough to know that I would feel strongly about breast feeding, and while my mom bf us, I don’t think she thought it was important enough to encourage me to keep suffering. So I can’t say that I’ve ever really regretted the surgery–I’ve been very happy with the results and my boobs no longer rule my life. But I can’t honestly say that I won’t be really disappointed and feel guilty if I’m unable to bf.

    My surgeon was one of the best around with excellent credentials, testimonials, and pictures and the technique he used was one that causes more extensive/larger scars than some, but is supposed to be best for preventing drooping and leaving structures in tact. Breasts can also recanalize ducts and reinnervate nerves so I remain hopeful that it will be a possibility. I’m not sure where you’re getting the 5% decrease in likelihood though, I think that’s too generous. 

    My ultimate recommendation would be to find the absolute best surgeon you can, and make sure their surgical technique will leave you with a good chance, as well as the most attractive breasts possible. My scars are so white and look far better than some friends I’ve seen, and pictures online. It’s not an easy decision, and if you were planning to have kids sooner than 12 years I would encourage you to wait, but that’s a long time. I don’t know how your healthcare system works, but I wouldn’t necessarily just get whatever is free or cheapest–this is not a situation in which you can cut corners or settle. 

    Post # 33
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    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I had a reduction 5 years ago and I am so happy with it.  Please do it.  It was truly life changing.  I am nervous about breastfeeding, as it’s definitely something I want to do.  But the benefits of having the surgery were too great….I’m hoping I’ll be able to do it when the time comes, but if I can’t, I won’t regret my decision at all.

    Post # 34
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    5188 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    The breatstfeeding issue is a personal one and only a mother can decide what’s best for her children, but… you have to be in good condition to care for them. If you think you’re having complications now just think of what will happen when you get pregnant and your breasts swell up and your back REALLY starts hurting. Are you going to be able to focus on your babies as much as you could if you were more comfortable? Besides, you don’t know exactly when you’re going to start having children. It could be in a few months, it could be in 7 years! If was in your position I’d get the surgery as soon as I could afford it, heal up thoroughly, and then start thinking about breastfeeding later on.

    Post # 35
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    982 posts
    Busy bee

    @Mischka:  I say, go for the surgery. I know 3 women that have, and it was the best thing they ever did – not sure if they were/will be able to breastfeed though. Pregnancy to me sounds so uncomfortable, let alone already being uncomfortable – plus your breasts will swell throughout pregnancy. Even though you have the best intentions for your future children, sometimes babies will just not breast feed. I wouldn’t as a baby, in fact, I was so fussy that the only thing I would drink was soy milk. (It doesn’t appear to have any any ill effects – I never get sick with anything). You can have the best intentions in the world, but babies also have a mind of their own! I guess you will know more when you have your consultation, in the meantime though you have time to think and look into options. It’s the sort of thing you’re better to do now – not just to relieve some discomfort, but also after a baby arrives, it will be very difficult to have the surgery then with recovery time and all.

    I wonder if you could have a private consultation first to get a bit of an idea? You don’t have to proceed, just get some information and think it over for a while.

    Post # 36
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @ForeverBirds:  “in order to have a healthy baby, you have to have a healthy mom first”

    THIS x a million!

    I am very adament that women should breastfeed, but in your case, you need to look after you first. Do NOT feel guilty about that.

    The only thing I can also suggest though, is that with pregnancy, your breasts will grow again. It’s possible that they may get quite large again, even post surgery, if you become pregnant.

    You should of course, discuss all that with a doctor first though.

     

    Good luck!

     

    Post # 37
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    1508 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I had a reduction a couple years ago and although we’re not sure if we’re having kids or not – I wanted to know if breastfeeding would be out of the question, if we chose to down the road. 

     

    Each person is different and only a proper consultation will give you your answer, but for me, they said as long as they don’t have to remove the nipple I’d be  perfectly fine to breastfeed post reduction! They have come along way from when they first started reduction surgeries and there are a lot less complications and negative side effects now.

     

    Honestly, it’s the best thing I ever did for myself!

    ETA** I was 24 when I had the surgery(28 now), 5’6 and was spilling out of my 36 DDD

    Post # 38
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    923 posts
    Busy bee

    1. @Mischka:  I’m in the same boat as you. I’m a 32FF/G and I want a breast reduction, but I also want to breastfeed! we’ve decided that we would like one more child ( I have a 4 year old daughter) so I’m going to wait until after having another child to have surgery. Mostly I want to wait because I’m afraid if I get pregnant after a reduction they will just come right back! in your case I would have the surgery now, especially since you want so many kids, and since you know you may have to go back for a second reduction. 

    Post # 39
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    2777 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Mischka:  If it were me, I would get the surgery. I have always been a C cup but during the year that I breastfed my boobs were literally BUSTING out of Dear Daughter. You already have a large chest, imagine how much bigger they will get when they’re engorged with milk!!!!! I would talk to your doctor about your concerns before you do the surgery and if he is confident I would say go for it. Also, IF you have an extre 6k laying around, go through insurance….otherwise, I’d wait a year and a half..

    Post # 41
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    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I am 100% in favor of you getting the surgery even if that means you can’t breast feed. My mom was in a very similar situation to you and got the surgery before she even got married. At that time she could not breastfeed anymore and my sister and I were formula-fed from day 1. Plus you most likely will be able to breasfteed! I think you should look out for own health now and then deal with any stumbling blocks that come up as is appropriate. 

    Post # 42
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    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Have the surgery, save your back! Consider how much weight you’re going to be carrying around as a pregnant woman with large and growing breasts and a baby bump. You’ll figure out the feeding stuff later, now is time to take care of you. 

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