Proactive IVF

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I really wouldn’t jump the gun on IVF if you don’t have to. 

 Have you  and your husband done any testing yet? Start from there, that’s probably your best thing to do if you want to be proactive.

Although it seems long, 4 months of TTC isn’t really a big deal.


Good luck!  

Post # 3
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

4 months is literally nothing. However, I have read that going in for testing is not a terrible idea if you have been actually timing BD perfectly (with temping and/or OPKs) for 6 months with no luck. You could always seek an RE referral at that time at least to discuss freezing and testing since you want such a large family. Best of luck! 

Post # 4
8425 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

IVF is pretty terrible as far as the hormones and injections you have to take, egg retrievals etc. It’s not something I’d jump to immediately.

4 months is really not that long at all. It can take a perfectly normal couple around a year to conceive. Are you using OPKs/temping?

I think you and your husband need to be honest with yourselves about your possible family size though. Back to back pregnancies are extremely hard on your body, and not everyone can even get pregnant again right away. My period didn’t come back for a year. And iirc it’s recommended to wait 18 months between births if you have a c-section.

Maybe considered adoption to increase your family size? I mean a lot of people say they want a bushel of kids until they actually have a few and change their minds too…

Post # 5
6296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Westwood :  I agree with a lot of this.

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lucyinsky :  With how much it will take to do IVF and prepare for it, it’s very possible you will get pregnant naturally during that time.

Post # 7
348 posts
Helper bee

4 months is nothing. Overall, 80% of couples will get pregnant within a year of trying – it is likely that you are in that 80%. You say that its ‘this hard’ already, but you have barely given yourself a chance to get pregnant. There is a 15-20% chance every cycle of getting pregnant naturally, so you might get pregnant this cycle or the next cycle. Give yourself some time. 

I’m speaking as someone who needs IVF to get pregnant – it is a big deal. It’s a lot of money, time, and most importantly, you are putting your body through a lot. The drugs can have insane side effects, and the whole process is SO invasive. There is also a huge emotional aspect, and it can be traumatic. 

I would look at IVF as an absolute last resort. 

Post # 9
3951 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was with the other bees until your follow-up that mentioned your husband’s condition. You might want to at least get him tested to see if MFI is an issue or not. 

Otherwise, my OB-GYN recommends women in their 30s come in after 6 months of actively trying, just in case.


Post # 10
3728 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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lucyinsky :  you could think about freezing some eggs right now and then keep ttc naturally? And yeah I would do a sperm assessment on your husband ASAP if he has a condition that may cause infertility. 

Post # 12
236 posts
Helper bee

Please understand IVF is in no way a short cut or an easy way to “jump ahead” in your efforts to create the family you imagine.  It is taxing financially, emotionally, physically, and often puts a strain on even the strongest marriages.  There is a reason doctors recommend medicated cycles and IUI prior to IVF.  As op said-  this should be your last option. Are you wanting to to jump to IVF in hopes of achieving multiples? Just an FYI-  most practices now will only transfer one embryo per cycle-  studies now show that transferring multiple embryos only increases chances of both a singleton and multiples marginally, but increases risk to maternal and fetal health exponentially.  Even with IVF, there is no guarantee in the number of embryos you will have to freeze, if the embryos will survive thaw, or if they will stick.

Now, there is is nothing wrong with your husband starting testing with a urologist- running a sperm analysis is very quick and simple.  You can also have hormone panels run on yourself at your OBGYN.  Are you temping and using OPKs? Taking prenatals, eating a healthy, fertility based diet? Getting regular exercise? There are ways to be proactive with your fertility without jumping right to IVF. 

I agree with PP-  you need to take a step back, start to realistically look at your expectations. 

Post # 15
704 posts
Busy bee

As someone who has done 3 retrievals and is only now gearing up for a transfer, there are no guarantees with IVF and it is in no way a short cut. IVF may take longer for you than just getting pregnant naturally. Not every woman responds to the stims so it may take you multiple retrievals to get any embryos. We started infertility treatment because my dh had MFI. It wasn’t until my first round of IVF stims that we discovered I am a poor responder. So it then took multiple IVF rounds to achieve any embryos. IVF is not a sure thing. It can expose other issues that you don’t even know about yet. I think for first steps, get your husband tested (SA, urologist examination) then have your levels checked and get an HSG to check for blockage. Then take it from there. 

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