(Closed) Probably can't be with my husband after we get married…Any Bees emigrate?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@PeachyKiwi:  Immigration is a long and frustrating process.  I’m immigrating to Canada to be with Mr. C.  We’re having to elope this year to get the paperwork underway so we can live together and are having our big wedding later.

First thing I would do is find an immigration forum that’s specific to the country you’re immigrating to.  If you’re going to NZ, then find one for there.  If you want to bring him to the US, find a US immigration forum.  They often have helpful information to get you started and so you know a bit of what you’re up against.

Next I’d consider finding an immigration lawyer if you can afford one.  Immigration is complicated and there are a lot of forms to fill out.  A professional can best advise you about what class of immigration is likely to be the most successful.

If you think you’re going to end up filing as spouses, be sure to start saving copies of emails, texts, phone bills etc.  Because you have to provide extensive proof your relationship is legitimate.  It’s worth it in the end to be with the person you love, but immigration is positively horrible to try to navigate.  

Post # 4
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My fiance actually came here and we got married. he was from England, and it took 7 months to get all the paperwork approved and to get his interview and buy a ticket here to Michigan. It’s a lot of work,but I’m sure you’re capable of doing it. There are plenty of immigration websites out there that could help you out. If you’re able to follow the directions and completely everything, I don’t see why there would be a problem with you doing it yourself. We didn’t have to use a lawyer at all throughout the entire process because the website I had helped me out so much in the forums. Lots of people are probably out there and have been in your situation ! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@mrsrichardson12:  Agreed that the forums are a huge help!  We’re not going to probably use a lawyer,unless it’s just to proof read our paperwork.  It’s emotionally helpful as well to know that others are going through what you are Smile

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I moved to the US to marry my husband. Immigration was about a year long process for us, just for me to move there and get married. We’re now adjusting status, which can be another 6 months or so.

You have to decide how you want to do things. Sometimes sacrifice is in order. Our originaly wedding was planned for April 2011, then October 2011 and finally ended up being May 2012. It was really rough with all the unknown, but totally worth it to do things the “right” way.

If you know you want the paperwork to live in NZ indefinitely I think you should delay the weddings so that it doesn’t interfere and it’s possible. A little waiting = big payoff.

The process sucks, but the end result it worth it. Check out the online forums, they’re immensely helpful. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Woah, you want to get married this winter and just now started to look into the immigration process? Steel yourself for many more headaches!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@thursdayschild:  good God, I’m going through that RIGHT NOW and it’s a HUGE headache especially because the forms are geared more towards K-1 visas, and not H-1!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@strawbs:  That doesn’t sound like fun! AOS been pretty straight forward for us, but I’m here on a K-1. I actually have a biometrics appointment tomorrow, so I’m hoping to get my work authorization and advance parole pretty soon!

Post # 12
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115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Sorry, I meant that you put off doing anything for awhile, not that you hadn’t looked into it! Immigration/getting a visa is tough (and frequently expensive) even when you have all your ducks in a row.  I second PPs suggestions to look for a NZ specific forum- there you should get clearer answers, and people who have been in your shoes can make suggestions. Get all your paperwork together now, make copies, and be prepared to plan your wedding date around immigration, not the other way around. They won’t care how much money you’ve sunk into a wedding. While documenting years of your relationship might sound like a headache, it’s actually probably easier in the long run. Get used to hearing a million different things each time you go to the office- they don’t want it to be easy. I’m not sure about NZ specifically, but work holiday visas in many countries can be tricky to switch over to a “real” (i.e. long term) visa, and might involve you having to return to the US for a bit to reenter once you do get a new visa.

It’s sucky, but a reality of immigrating. Once you get past all those hurdles, you can celebrate with a bottle of champagne. Preferably a magnum Wink

Post # 13
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262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know the feeling, my fiance and I will have the smae headache trying to live in one country. I thank God he is worth it tho’ because the process can be quite drawn out and dauting. Good luck on your journey.

Post # 14
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516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m immigrating to Australia and we are using a lawyer. Yes, it is expensive, but it is worth it to me not to make mistakes. It’s always cheaper to do it right the first time than to have to hire a lawyer to fix a mistake you made. Plus the lawyer will tell you what the law is- he will know it better than the goons that work at the immigration department and having a lawyer sign off on your application means they are less likely to go over it with a fine-tooth comb. If you apply for your visa outside New Zealand, be prepared to be separated from your fiance for a while. We’re talking between 2-6 months while they process your visa. If you can find a way to apply from inside New Zealand, do so because it is usually faster, but also be prepared for the fact that you might not be able to come and go while your visa is processing.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Heya.

I’m the opposite. I’m the kiwi going from Japan to the US. Looking into NZ immigration, it IS hard. The living together rule makes it really difficult. Just wanted to say chin up and ganbatte. You WILL end up together eventually, in the same country 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I have done the US expat to the EU route and can not stress enough how great it is to find a forum of people in oyur exact situation. I too was often given conflicting information related to emigration and taxes but have learned a lot by talking to other Americans here. First main lesson though is that a lot of the mixed information can all be valid depending on who you meed with at the immigration office. I started the process in one city and was told I would need to take a formal exam in the country’s language at 13 months after our wedding in order to be granted a visa without an expiration date. By that time, we had moved and the new office extended my visa for 2 years then told me at 5 years or residency, I get the unlimited status without an exam. I just passed 5 years and now have an unlimed permission to stay, never took an exam. I also found that being a US citizen I seemed to have to jump through less hoops as there were less Americans who wanted visas. It seemed like the local immigrant majority was getting a bit more of a hassel when people tried to bring in whole families and as a wife of a born citizen with a job, I had less issue. 

ETA: If you want a one way ticket and can’t get one due to Visa status, just buy a round trip (sometimes this may even be less expensive) and don’t use the return. As long as the portion of the flight you are using is the first leg you are fine. This would even give you the option to schedule the return far into the future and maybe use it to visit home or just pick a time that makes the flight cheaper. Also, why can’t you just go to NZ on a holiday and have a “spontaneous” wedding. Look into it  as it is a grey area but this is what we did for our wedding in the US and I know we were not the only ones, of course we donT’ live in the US so it was a holiday. 

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