Post # 1
SO and I were talking yesterday about marriage. It came up because he and a relative of mine work for the same company and sometimes run into each other (they are in different departments). When they see each other, my relative always asks when we are getting married which drives the two of us nuts. I used that opportunity to joke around like “yeah when are we getting engaged” in a total joking manner. SO was like “What happens when I give you the ring, you’ll want to get married in a year? I don’t think we are there yet” That made me really sad because I though we were really making progress when he told me was really trying not to spend any money and save it for something. Guess I’ll be waiting longer than I thought 🙁
Any advice on how to cheer myself up? I know I need to sit down with him and ask him why he didn’t feel like he would be ready to get married in a year (I never said anything about when I wanted to get married or how long of an engagemnt to have so I don’t know where he got a year from) but i couldn’t think of what to say in that moment when we talked. Thanks for reading ladies.
Post # 3
Have you heard of Mr. Bee’s Three Step Plan? I unintentionally followed it before I got engaged. I hope that you two can get on the same page!
Post # 4
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I have read it but it’s always good to review it. We seriously live about 20 minutes from each other but due to work schedules and not having the same days off, we hardly get to see each other anyway which sucks. Maybe I’ll look into taking a class this summer to try to keep my mind off engagements. Thank you for responding.
Post # 5
Have you thought about sitting down and asking him when he sees you getting married? Even just getting a general idea might make you feel better. A while back I was curious as to my SO’s feelings on the subject Turns out, he was way more on my page than I thought. Your SO might be more on the same page as you than you think, but there’s only one way to find out!
Post # 6
I hear you about waiting longer.
I found out I’m going to be in school longer than I was originally supposed to for the sake of my career.
Not sure if this will push back the summer engagement…but waiting even longer has made me feel depressed lately.
I hope time passes soon for us both.
Post # 7
Thanks for the replies. I actually spoke to him earlier about everything and he reassured me that he wants to marry me and that I just need to relax. He said that with effort that he will definitely propose to me by the end of the year. Now if only the end of the year would come a bit sooner…..:)
@Torrid: I hear you about being depressed. His remark about not being ready to get married in a year really brought me down but at least now i have a better understanding of what is going on. I hope time passes for you and that he still proposes to you this summer 🙂
Post # 8
*hugs* I am glad you got the reassurance!