Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2014 - Hotel Baronette Renaissance in Novi
FI and I have been living together in the house that we rent. In short, I’m so sick of this house I could pull all of my hair AND eyes right out.
From the day that we moved in, this house was like jinxed or something. FI backed the U-Haul into the gas meter (which was improperly placed and not up to code, we soon found out), causing a minor gas leak. We proceeded to not have any gas for 2 weeks while they rerouted the gas line.
We’ve had a range of everything from the poorly maintained pipes not working (many showers have been taken in at least 2 inches of water in the tub due to the slow drain), sewage back up on New Year’s this year due to poorly maintained sewage system (we live in a heavily treed area, where the tree roots grow into the pipes), mold growing in the poorly ventilated bathroom with no fan, malfunctioning electrics, drafty windows, basement floor is crumbling due to water damage, etc.
In short, this place is a mess. And our landlords pretty much take the easiest way out of everything, and sort of half @$$ fix everything.
We’re getting married in April of 2014, and I really, really wanted to buy a house to move into either before or soon after we get married. Apparently this is not going to be feasible, so I’ve decided I’m still open to renting. I have this feeling like this house is just bad luck, and I don’t want to start my married life here. FI could care less, and said he is willing to move, but isn’t doing anything to try to help me find a new place to rent. With all of the wedding stuff, and now this, I’m just so overwhelmed. My mother keeps saying, “well, this is part of being a homeowner!”, FI keeps telling me how I’m being unreasonable, and this house is fine. I’m. SO. FRUSTRATED. I guess I just needed to vent, but has anyone else had any similar experiences?
Post # 3
@kittymama426: lol You’re not a homeowner though, you’re renting. I was so fed up with our apartment and was so happy when we moved.
Our hot water was turned off so frequently, sometimes we had no water. I completely understand how much it sucks!
Post # 4
I haven’t had a similar experience, however… what about renting an apartment instead of a house? Hear me out.
My apartment complex is incredibly well-maintained. They mow the lawns weekly and keep it super clean and manicured so the place always looks nice. Whenever something breaks, it’s fixed within a day or two. Even huge fixes only take a few days, and at no cost to me. Bad pipe? They’ll fix it. Garbage disposal go out? It’s replaced next day.
I don’t have to do any of the fixing, or the yardwork. It’s awesome. I have a gym and a pool if I want, and our apartment is PERFECT for us. Honestly, if we didn’t want a place for our dog to run and play off-leash, we wouldn’t consider moving unless we were buying a house.
Post # 5
@kittymama426: sounds like my old apartment before we moved to Ontario. I totally feel your pain, nothing worse.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t call this dramatic, you’re paying a lot of money for these people to not do SHIT to make your property livable, you are NOT a homeowner so your mother’s argument is poor, you’re paying them to take care of this. Where you a homeowner yes, this would all be yours to deal with. Not to mention that mold is a serious issue. I know it sucks that he doesn’t care to help but when you move into a safe, more liveable space, he will appreciate it and realize what a hole you’ve been living in.
Post # 7
good thing you’re just renting it! I would switch to a different place ASAP. Moving is annoying, but you’ll be much happier.
Post # 8
The good thing is, it sounds like just about anywhere would be better than where you are now (no promises though, I have some horror stories…) You can eliminate a lot of the chance by getting on an apartment ratings site or talking to prospective neighbors, however. On that note, once you move out, you should get on Yelp and the like, and warn others about how bad it is.
I understand being overwhelmed, but I think you’ll feel a lot better once you are out of there.
Post # 9
@kittymama426: I hear ya. My husband wants things to be better, and also wants to move, but makes no effort to help fix up the house or find us a new one. When he bought the house in 2006 it needed work and he did none of it since it lost so much value (if I have to dump it, why dump money into it?). Now that we’re married and I’m living there too, I hate feeling like I’m living in squalor and am trying to fix it up, but it’s hard work when the other person there just doesn’t care.
Post # 10
@kittymama426: Yeah, you’re not being dramatic or unreasonable. We lived in an apt and got SO sick and tired of half ass fixes that we had to move. He was NEVER willing to fix anything. Our bathroom fan kept going out. Rather than replacing it he claimed it was always just dirty. I was like, “You have cleaned it 3 times this month. Does it really get that dirty that soon?” FINALLY they replaced it.
The windows were readyto fall out (and we were on the second floor of a four plex). If we had a LO, and he/she banged on them hard enough I bet they’d fall out eventually. They were SO dirty on the outside too. Hadn’t cleaned them in over 5 years.
It was just a mess, and when we were ready to move out, the next door neighbors, who are looking for a condo, told us that that he is even raising the rent another 150 bucks. Glad we got out of that.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2014 - Hotel Baronette Renaissance in Novi
I could never imagine having a LO here. If by some means between now and the wedding we got pregnant, we’d be in serious crap.
THANK YOU for noting that I am indeed NOT a homeowner. I have no idea why she keeps saying that, and I keep correcting her.
If we didn’t have 2 cats and a dog that likes to play in a backyard, I would not blink an eye to look into renting a nicer apartment.
I just wish I had the tiniest bit of help trying to find a place. FI is a lawyer, and he gets periodic bonus checks from settled cases, and he keeps assuring me that that if I can just hold out, we’ll have a down payment soon. I’ve been told that for a few months. 🙁 UGH! I found a realtor, so fingers crossed she’s going to find something for us. It’s not helping that we have pets, because a lot of landlords don’t allow them.
These landlords now… I WISH I could yelp review them. They are beyond the worst; and the thing is, I know this house is paid off. They only rent this house out for income (theý both have pretty nice jobs too, to add insult to injury), and they can’t even fix the stuff properly! @Megz06… I’m kind of smirking at this. At least you HAD a vent! We have no such thing, hence the mold that has been growing in the upper portion of our shower ceiling. Oh, try to open the window? That would be easier said than done since the idiots that lived here before painted the windows shut.
The sad reality is, we live in a really popular, trendy area, within walking distance of an awesome downtown. They use this, along with a somewhat reasonable rent, to justify being horrible landlords.