(Closed) Probably not getting a shower: kinda bummed

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1103 posts
Bumble bee

About a week before my wedding, my parents took me out for lunch. It was just the 3 of us. It was a really nice way to de-stress and re-connect before the big day. Maybe you and your mother could do something like that – have a girls day out that doesn’t involve actually doing anything, just being together in celebration of your marriage. We don’t really do bridal showers in Australia so don’t know how it would feel to have/not have one, but I do get the importance of rituals and I think you and your mum could make up your own 🙂

Post # 4
420 posts
Helper bee

I am living in the Middle East and I was born and raised in Canada. Needless to say, my whole family and all my friends, are there! I am not having a shower or a bachelorette party. I will fly in to Canada about 5 days before my wedding, do last minute running around, and that is all there will be time for. It kinda sucks, but I pretty much knew from the start, because of my living situation. So don’t feel bad, you are not alone. I just let it be one of the sacrifices, in the many that come with getting married.??

Post # 5
1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

At first I did not want one.  And then my mom decided to throw one (I am having a short engagement- 3months).  I was glad she did, it was nice to see that people cared.

There is still plenty of time for a shower to happen! If you truly want one, talk with your mom, she can conspire with your bridesmaids about planning a shower up where they live.  It means you would have to travel, but it would be worth it, wouldn’t it?

Post # 6
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you’d like to have a shower, it’s not too late.  Make it known to your mom or bridesmaids.  Fly up to Norcal.  Do what it takes while it’s not too late.  You don’t want to regret it later, especially since you already know it makes you bummed. 

Maybe the thing is, you just need time to spend with the mom or a few friends.  Whatever it is, at least try to make it happen so you know at least you tried.

Post # 7
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m in the same situation. My parents are in San Diego, 3 of my bridesmaids are in Tennessee and one is in Maine and I’m in Cincinnati!! I don’t think I’ll get a shower and I’m actually worried that I won’t get to have a bachelorette party either! I’m hoping that there’s a way I can do something before the wedding, but I’m going to try to spend as much time as I can with everyone beforehand. I  might suck it up and go to Tennessee if the girls will throw me a party there… I guess we’ll just have to comprimise to get the parties or just do without! I’m betting there’s a way to make it happen somehow…

Is there any way you could go up to N. California for a shower?

Post # 8
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I didn’t think I wanted one but being on the otherside of the country from everyone gave me the same unbridal feelings.  I haven’t had anyone get excited for me.  So I am heading back home next weekend to do more planning and my mom is throwing a shower for me.  You can get one together in a week.  It shouldn’t be a problem and from what I read anyone these days can throw the shower.  No worry about that. 

Post # 9
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

my suggestion is to combine your bridal shower with your bachelorette party…have the girls brings bridal shower type gifts to the bachelorette party….. If needed, even have it the night before the wedding, after the rehearsal dinner….People will be in town then for sure….

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