Post # 1
It’s probably silly, but I’m rather sad that I’m probably not going to be getting a bridal shower. My entire family plus two of my bridesmaids live in Northern California, while I live in San Diego. My third bridesmaid (my fiance’s little sister) lives here but considering she’s only 16 years old, really can’t plan a party. My parents are coming to visit in a little over a week, and while I talked to my mom over the phone today, she mentioned how she should have tried to plan a party for while she was down here, but considering that’s a little bit over a week away, and I haven’t even set out the actual wedding invitations yet, there’s no way bridal shower invites could get sent out on such short notice. Plus, isn’t the MOB not supposed to put on a shower?
It really sucks, because I haven’t gotten to do anything wedding-related with my mother (she hasn’t even seen my dress yet), and I was hoping that she and I would get to do one thing before the actual wedding. And while I’m not normally a center-of-attention kind of person, every now and then it’s nice to be doted on. Sometimes I really feel like I’m missing out on the whole “bride” experience.
Did anyone else not get a shower who wanted one? How did you feel?
Post # 3
About a week before my wedding, my parents took me out for lunch. It was just the 3 of us. It was a really nice way to de-stress and re-connect before the big day. Maybe you and your mother could do something like that – have a girls day out that doesn’t involve actually doing anything, just being together in celebration of your marriage. We don’t really do bridal showers in Australia so don’t know how it would feel to have/not have one, but I do get the importance of rituals and I think you and your mum could make up your own 🙂
Post # 4
I am living in the Middle East and I was born and raised in Canada. Needless to say, my whole family and all my friends, are there! I am not having a shower or a bachelorette party. I will fly in to Canada about 5 days before my wedding, do last minute running around, and that is all there will be time for. It kinda sucks, but I pretty much knew from the start, because of my living situation. So don’t feel bad, you are not alone. I just let it be one of the sacrifices, in the many that come with getting married.??
Post # 5
At first I did not want one. And then my mom decided to throw one (I am having a short engagement- 3months). I was glad she did, it was nice to see that people cared.
There is still plenty of time for a shower to happen! If you truly want one, talk with your mom, she can conspire with your bridesmaids about planning a shower up where they live. It means you would have to travel, but it would be worth it, wouldn’t it?
Post # 6
If you’d like to have a shower, it’s not too late. Make it known to your mom or bridesmaids. Fly up to Norcal. Do what it takes while it’s not too late. You don’t want to regret it later, especially since you already know it makes you bummed.
Maybe the thing is, you just need time to spend with the mom or a few friends. Whatever it is, at least try to make it happen so you know at least you tried.
Post # 7
I’m in the same situation. My parents are in San Diego, 3 of my bridesmaids are in Tennessee and one is in Maine and I’m in Cincinnati!! I don’t think I’ll get a shower and I’m actually worried that I won’t get to have a bachelorette party either! I’m hoping that there’s a way I can do something before the wedding, but I’m going to try to spend as much time as I can with everyone beforehand. I might suck it up and go to Tennessee if the girls will throw me a party there… I guess we’ll just have to comprimise to get the parties or just do without! I’m betting there’s a way to make it happen somehow…
Is there any way you could go up to N. California for a shower?
Post # 8
I didn’t think I wanted one but being on the otherside of the country from everyone gave me the same unbridal feelings. I haven’t had anyone get excited for me. So I am heading back home next weekend to do more planning and my mom is throwing a shower for me. You can get one together in a week. It shouldn’t be a problem and from what I read anyone these days can throw the shower. No worry about that.
Post # 9
my suggestion is to combine your bridal shower with your bachelorette party…have the girls brings bridal shower type gifts to the bachelorette party….. If needed, even have it the night before the wedding, after the rehearsal dinner….People will be in town then for sure….