- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
soo a little background on me. my SO and I have been together nearly 3 years and have talked extensively about marriage. We’ve talked about getting engaged within the next year. i’m definitely in the ansty stage of waiting/overanalyzing. i try not to bring up the M-talk too often because we’ve already discussed it quite a bit and i don’t want to be a nag.
We’ve always talked about how he would handle telling my parents. i prefer to think of it as informing them, not asking them. i think it’s respectful to let them know it’s in the works. it’s important to me, but they are divorced, don’t live near each other, and don’t speak to each other (they don’t hate each other or anything, but I’m 25 and self sufficient so they don’t really need to anymore…also I don’t think my Dad’s girlfriend is comfortable with it. In any event, they probably haven’t spoken in about 2+ years). I’ve told SO that it’s most important that my mom was informed as my Dad wasn’t super involved in raising me, but that if SO talked to my Mom, she’d call my dad for him to tell him to come down so that SO could speak to them together.
in any case this weekend I got a call from my dad saying “Your mom called me and left me a message, do you know what it’s about, is she ok etc” to which i said, “yes she’s fine, no i don’t know why she called, just call her back to find out.” I thought it was weird that she called him, and I talked to my mom later on and asked her about it and she said that she wanted to ask my dad how his family was and shoot the breeze and see if he wanted to come down and see my new place (i just moved). this seemed a little weird to me. Honestly…. the first thing i thought was EEEEEP maybe SO called her to ask if he could..you know…TALK TO THEM.
Probably overanalyzing but that’s the first thought that came to my mind. isn’t it crazy how women do this? i would feel like a complete cheeseball even talking to friends about this because they’d be like…BFD your mom called your dad. HAHA :o)
I don’t *think* my Boyfriend or Best Friend has a ring but we do have an upcoming vacay planned in october and all my friends and family are like HE’S GOING TO DO IT ON YOUR TRIP but…knowing him I think he’d want to suprise me and he’d think I’d expect the vacay proposal. also our semi deadline for being engaged/moving in together is when our current leases end-which isn’t until next june-july. Being a man/the type of guy who takes his sweet ass time with everything, I kindof expect him to wait until the last second and procrastinate until closer to that time. SIGHHHH.
Anyway, just wanted to get this out someplace! Hope you ladies had a good weekend! Waiting eeeep!