(Closed) Probably opening up a can of worms but I’m curious…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How do you feel about strip clubs and porn?

    Okay with both

    Okay with strip clubs, Not okay with porn

    Not okay with strip clubs, Okay with Porn

    Not okay with either

  • Post # 62
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t care about either. So long as it is all concenting and nothing illegal is going on, why SHOULD I care? It is their choice!

    Post # 65
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    Helper bee

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    @Mrs Hedgehog: I’m glad someone understood my humor!  I felt like a thread killer!

    Post # 66
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ve posted this before, but this is my stand on porn: I’m not bothered by it. The way I view porn is very simple: it’s a tool. You can do the work without it, or you can use it and get the job done in half the time.

    As far as strip clubs are concerned, I’m okay with DH going for boys nights, bachelor parties, etc. Everything in moderation!

    Post # 67
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I really dont like it at all. And it played a small role in me calling off my engagement. Its not the fact that he was watching it, but he lied to me when I already knew the truth. I kept urging to him that he really needed to be honest and he wouldnt so yeah. We had already had a conversation about it and he said he would stop but turned around did it again and lied about it a second time.

    Post # 68
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Honestly I think most men watch porn. It is what it is. A bunch of guys watching it in a group seems a bit strange to me. I don’t like strip clubs but honestly I think mostly all you do there is waste tons and tons of money and not get much out of it. Still I don’t really like the idea of it..

    Post # 69
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    My fiance and I are not comfortable with porn or strip clubs for personal beliefs.

    Post # 70
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I’m open to both. I’ve never personally experienced any problems with a boyfriend using porn and/or strip clubs so I’m pretty relaxed about it. my Fiance does not go often, only during a bachelor party or with me.

    the first time I went to a strip club, it was with my Fiance. it’s only when we go to portland, OR. for some reason, that town has lots of really great strip clubs with cute tattooed “suicide girl” types that we don’t have in our own town.  the clubs are more like hipster bars that just happen to have a cute naked girl dancing in the background and there tend to be as many female patrons as there are male. I’ve also been to those clubs with groups of friends when we road trip down to portland.

    I don’t find the “stereotypical” strippers (with fake boobs, too much makeup, etc) very appealing. and I have no interest in going to strip clubs with naked men.

    anyway, my Fiance and I like to do this occasionally, it’s fun. one time we even got a lap dance together!

    I’m also ok with porn. no problem-o.

     

    Post # 71
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @linguo42: exactly how i feel!

    Post # 72
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @janie-janie:I wasnt talking about her judgemental aspect of her statement. She responded to something someone else said and I restated in my statement so please read in its entirety before responding back. The girl said she knows she’s getting some when her man comes home, if he has been out to a strip club.

    someone said why would you want your man to come and sex you when someone else got him aroused. (Those werent her exact words, but if you wawnt to find it, I’d suggest you go read on the 2nd page of posts) And that’s what I was agreeing with, but if you had read my posts and understood it, then you would have known that 🙂

    No response needed.Tongue out And honestly if your response was not geared towards me, I truly do apologize.

    Post # 73
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I love porn!!!!

    Post # 74
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Porn is okay provided that it does not hinder the rest of our day-to-day activities. Strip clubs not okay. There is that element of ‘reality’ to it which is not present in porn.

    Post # 75
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    Sugar bee

    I don’t care about either but for peelers, there is a “no lap dance, and no sniff-row (where you’re obl. to tip) rule”

    Porn, I don’t care at all.  My FH has a big collection.  I look at it with him occasionally too.  I do however try to get him to choose “realistic” porn with at least a  few sets of of real boobs and no gang bangs, kind of thing.

    Post # 76
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I think it helps that I agree with my FI’s taste in porn and strip clubs. mostly “suicide girls” type of stuff.

    if he was into “barely legal” (which he’s not) or totally fake looking women,  then I would start having a problem with that! if he started going to strip clubs often w/o me, again, that would be an issue.

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