(Closed) Probably Overanalyzing, but…

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
57 posts
Worker bee


But all I know is that I cannot sit and wait and do nothing anymore.  I cannot watch my life pass me by and not have a role in it.  I cannot continue to watch the time pass and continue to watch my SO be totally oblivious to it.


I agree 100% with what you said here.  I think it may be hard for others who have not “waited” to understand this mentality.  Its hard to sit by and want something so bad but feel as though you have no control over obtaining that thing that you want, and would do nearly anything for.  

I think you made the right decision by talking to him and asking him to think about it.  You did not tell him that he has to marry you tomorrow, only that he has to decide one way or the other.  I hope things turn out well for you!

Post # 18
10363 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@LoveMyDogs: How is asking him to think about it, and then not talking about what he thought about, and then you guessing/reading into/trying to be psychic moving things along? I think what you did was hugely positive….but you failed the follow through. If you guys can’t openly discuss what’s going on, I think that’s a big problem. Trying to read his mind will get you nowhere, and will only feed the disappointing/damaging loop of “Does he? Doesn’t he?” that you’ve been on.

Post # 19
37 posts



Please don’t think you are overanalyzing.  That’s what your title says.  Don’t doubt yourself!  It’s perfectly normal/okay to want to be married and want answers.  You are only doing right by yourself.  I would think there was something wrong with you if you were NOT analyzing your situation.  This is a big life event that is very important to most women.  You are far from overanalyzing!!!  Wink

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