(Closed) Problem with a wedding I’m in

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would let the bride know that you guys havn’t heard from the Maid/Matron of Honor and that the two of you want to help, just let her know that you’ve emailed the Maid/Matron of Honor and would like to either A) get her phone number so you can call her or B) ask your bride to perhaps plan a small lunch so you gals can get together and find out what the bride wants at her bach party, plus this would be a great opprotunity to inform the Maid/Matron of Honor that you want to play a more active role.

What you don’t want to do is call the Maid/Matron of Honor and yell, just because she hasn’t answered the email doesn’t mean she doesn’t want your help. There are alot of girls out there (me included) who don’t know excatly what the Maid/Matron of Honor duties are, even girls that have been MOHs before, some don’t know your supposed to send out invitations. In fact, I’ve recieved texts before regarding bach parties, so perhaps she just doesn’t know. 

Some people arn’t as organized as others, and as I stated earlier, some just don’t know what their duties are and some people arn’t good communicators. So, just be calm & it will all work out 🙂 Good Luck!  

Post # 4
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I agree with AnnieAAA.  Perhaps the Maid/Matron of Honor was told that you and your Maid/Matron of Honor were going to be super busy and not able to help much so she wasn’t asking for your assistance.

Are you worried that you aren’t invited to the parties?  If it’s a month away and there’s still no invite, that’s cutting it close!

Post # 6
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Sounds like a sticky situation – maybe she’s a MOHzilla, maybe she’s just flaky… either way you’ve tried helping her to no avail. Let your bride know you’ve tried (maybe casually, in passing – don’t make a big deal out of it and cause her stress).

In the meantime be prepared to help with last minute details (like inviting people to the parties?!), and be ready to just be a guest too! It’s great you want to help – but don’t let it cause friction in the bridal party – I’ve seen it happen and it’s just not fair to the bride.

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