(Closed) Problem with GF’s inviting my DH everywhere!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@moderndaisy: Maybe just tell your Darling Husband how you feel? Have him politely turn them down.

Have you talked to him about it?

My FI’s friends always invite me to hang out with them, even when it’s just guys. Sometimes I go, and sometimes I turn down the invite so they can have their “guy time”.

I usually try to get a read from Fiance on whether I should come or let it be a guy thing.

Post # 4
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree just talk to your husband.  Let him know that you feel like you are losing girl time and you would appreciate it if he made up some excuse next time one of your friends invites him along.  I can’t imagine he really enjoys attending anyway.  My husband would never in a million years attend girls night with me.

Post # 6
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3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yup, just talk to your husband and explain that while you love how well he gets along with your friends, it would be great if he could tactfully turn down their invitations sometimes so you can have a real girls night.

If you told the girls outright you’d rather they stop inviting Fiance, they’d probably read too much into it and that would likely make things awkward.

ETA: Your Fiance shouldn’t feel bad about turning them down. An invitation is never an obligation. All he needs to say is a lighthearted, “Nah, what do you ladies want a guy crashing your girls night for?”

Post # 7
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1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think there is anything wrong with just bringing this up with your girlfriends. Just tell them what you told us. “So glad you love Darling Husband, I could really use a girls night though, can we plan one soon?” that way they know not to ask him.

I recently ran into the exact same issue, that’s how I handled it, and now we have girl nights AND nights with Fiance in tow. It’s a good balance.

Post # 8
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you should tell them exactly what you told us: that you love the occasional girl’s night away from your husband and really want to spend quality time with them! Anyone who’s ever had a relationship would understand and not be offended 🙂

Post # 9
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2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

that’s really strange! since you and Darling Husband are on the same page, i’d talk to your friends individually when they invite him, or have your Darling Husband decline the invite by jokingly saying “oh, moderndaisy needs her girl-time” or something like that. they prob don’t realize they’re doing it, and just trying to be nice.

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