Post # 1
Ok so this is my first post.
My Fiance moved from his hometown to my city for me. He only has one close friend here from his hometown. Me and this friend have never really clicked. When Marc sfirst moved here, we would all go out on Sundays to watch football, but after a few weekends, this friend decided that it was boys only. When Marc hangs out with him, this friend gets mad if I call. This friend also doesnt let Marc call me either. I know that Marc should be standing up for me, and that is another issue.
Marc has asked him to be a groomsman, which is also fine as they are such close friends. I told Marc that I really wanted to get to know his friend this coming year before the wedding. Well earlier this week, I find out that he has no plans to do that, and also deleted me as a friend on facebook, several weeks ago.
I told Marc that I could not have Jordan be a groomsman unless things changes. Marc seems to think that he has no part in helping fix this obvious issue.
My Mom tells me that there is nothign I can do. I just need to walk on eggshells for Marc’s friend. My friends tell me that I should put my foot down.
I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Is it ok to tell the Fiance if things dont change, his friend is not welcome? (without being Bridezilla)
Post # 3
Truth: No matter what you do you will be “Bridezilla.” Fiance has a friend like this as well and I have just accepted that I have to suck it up and not say anything. Because this wedding is just as much his as it is yours.
Post # 4
in my opinion, groomsmen and bridesmaids are standing up there with the bride AND groom. not jusst the bride or the groom. you are taking your vows in front of family and friends, and you want to know that the groomsmen and bridesmaids support this union. otherwise, why would they be standing up there with you? my boyfriend/soon-to-be-fiance has a friend that has been nothing but a thorn in my side for the first five years of our relationship. and i finally put my foot down. and you know what? he did a complete 360. my boyfriend had a talk with him and said listen, you are my bestfriend, but i am planning on spending the rest of my life with my girlfriend. and if you can’t accept both of us, i can’t continue the friendship as it is damaging to my relationship. he valued his friendship with my boyfriend, and i am glad to say i am now close friends with the guy that i despised for years!!! he was simply jealous of our relationship and needed to grow up a bit. you’re fiance needs to get a back bone and relay his/your feelings to his friend, but that’s just my opinion. at one point in time, i even told my boyfriend that there was no way his friend was going to be in the wedding party if he continued acting the way that he was, because he did nothing but try and tear us apart and i felt that it was inappropriate for him to be involved in our wedding. i’m glad to say that things turned out and he is now going to be a groomsmen, i hope it turns out for you too!