- lara bee
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
My maid of honor has been my best friend for over 15 years. Lately, things have not been very good. Here’s the backstory…
Over a year and a half ago I let my Maid/Matron of Honor move in with me to help her save money. This was only supposed to be temporary – 6 to 9 months. I was really helpful in charging her a really low amount the first two months, and then pretty much half of the mortgage after that. Then, I met my FH shortly after this and within 6 months we were pretty much living together. I then asked her if she wanted to rent the entire place. (She was mad at me for never being home and leaving my room empty since she had a son and they were sleeping in the same room)… So, I let her rent out the entire place after that. We had an agreement that I’d only raise the rent a little bit, and then within one year, she had to be paying the full mortgage. (I’d raise it a little after 6 months, and then again). She agreed…. she could definitely afford it – she makes more than I do!
Anyways, the 6 month mark came for the rent to go up and I reminded her. She pretty much demanded that I NOT raise the rent. We got into a huge argument and then she told me that she was moving out. So, now she is leaving and I have to find a new renter, which is completely fine and better for our friendship anyways….
But here’s the thing, we NEVER talk anymore about anything. Everytime I’ve wanted her for things for the wedding, i.e. dress shopping, shoe shopping, bridal shows, she has to squeeze me into her schedule. She’s been really picky about her dress and shoes, and making a big deal about it looking good. (As if I have bad taste).
Yesterday I was telling her I needed her out by a certain date and if she wasn’t she would have to pay more and she flipped out. Then she told me "I don’t think I’m comfortable standing up for you in your wedding. Hopefully, I’m just mad."
HOPEFULLY she’s just mad! I told her that if she didn’t want in, to just let me know… she hasn’t been very supportive anyways.
So, hive… what should I do? She definitely isn’t the friend she once was… and I don’t know if she will ever be. I am really bitter about this whole situation. I helped her out so much and pretty much supported her and her son for a long time (I paid nearly $500 per month for a place I wasn’t living). And she treats me like I was the bad person trying to take advantage of her.
Please help! We don’t want her ruining our wedding day, or being a bad memory of it.