(Closed) Problems communicating with my boss…help??

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
Member
4054 posts
Honey bee

View original reply
rebeccasum:  I would say something like, “boss, can we have a meeting to discuss the details of the event? There seems to be some miscommunication that I would like to clear up. Also, it seems as though the details of the event aren’t thoroughly documented, and I would like to work together to create a more detailed document so that future events are easier to plan.”

Post # 3
Member
11534 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

As both a former boss and an employee, I can sympathize with your situation.

It’s likely that your boss is too busy to be dealing with the details and that someone else besides her was handling various components of the event.

Was there any type of committee involved in the planning last year? Is there an administrative assistant who may have been involved? Is it possible that the person you replaced (if your position is not new) is the person who handled all the details last year?

Could you check any other sources of information such as past procurement records that may indicate vendors that were booked to provide services for last year’s event?

Are there any news articles in internal or external news letters or media clippings/news videos that you could go through that may provide clues?

Can you develop a very detailed matrix showing everything that you’re aware of that needs to be done, along with the status of that item, and present it to your boss so that she can then try to fill in any gaps? Seeing your plans laid out in black and white may jar her memory on some missing pieces.

Post # 5
Member
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

View original reply
rebeccasum:  I have a supervisor just like this! She is so scatter-brained and quick to play the blame game (not just to me either). I try to make sure I email her about certian important things to ensure my ass is covered. I wish I had advice or a solution for you though. :/

Post # 6
Member
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sounds like this is your responsbility now. Which is also your opportunity to shine. So I think that you need to be a little more proactive in your approach and less reliant upon your boss for direction–especially because if you stay in the job, you’re also putting together a record that is actually useable for you to use next year. 

If she’s asking you about putting together xyz, it suggests that you might need a timeline. Sit down with a calendar and work backwards. Plan out how YOU would do things, with notes to ask her if your instincts are correct. It’s not really that much different from planning a wedding. You’ll probably need the invitations to go out 8 weeks or so in advance. You’ll need a launch-date for the info on your website. You’ll need a caterer and a budget and a deadline for headcounts. Do you have a budget? If the golf course pro who was handling it last year is gone, your next question is “okay, so who’s my point-person now?” (And I would arrange an in-person meeting with these people if I were you) It seems a little strange to me that the golf course doens’t have someone there who is some kind of events coordinator–what about liability and insurance and events contracts? 

Basically, do all the legwork that you possibly can, then present your progress to your boss. When I did this sort of thing (which was a long time ago!) my boss and I had weekly meetings just to make sure we were on the same page. At the beginning and nearing the event, our meetings would be longer, but sometimes they might only be “nothing new to report” check-ins. 

Post # 7
Member
3534 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I had a boss like this during my internship years ago; I almost walked out towards the end of it.

I think you should sit down with her again and go over everything you have, and say “am I missing anything???”  Then email her everything you guys went over after the meeting so she has a written log of it.

Post # 8
Member
2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

View original reply
rebeccasum: do you have experience doing this kind of thing before?

its not too late, but you really need to sit down and have a very detailed plan of what’s done / vetted, in progress, needs starting. 

Post # 10
Member
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah, it’s annoying, but all you can do is fix the mistake. 

You can’t take it personally as a kind of “I didn’t know! She’s blaming me/she thinks I’m making mistakes!”. You just have to make it happen. I think she realizes that you don’t have the information and she’s probably having to remember in bits and pieces. Focus on solving shooting the ducks when they fly. 

The topic ‘Problems communicating with my boss…help??’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors