(Closed) Problems with bridesmaid!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

I say give it some time. I just went through the same thing kind of with my Maid/Matron of Honor not talking to me for about a month. I was at the same point already thinking she wasn’t going to be in it at all and thinking of back up plans and now it’s all ok for the most part.  Let her be for now, give it some time and try not to assume anything. Then you can ask, if she still intends to be in it without assuming she isn’t going to be. 

Post # 4
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

letticiarose:  I am over here visiting from my own thread 🙂 

I would NOT want that girl at my wedding! She has been a bitch to you, you do not want that at your wedding. I am sure she is reading your texts etc but just not bothering to respond. I would send her an email or something where you let her know that because of the way she has been treating you, you feel it’s best to pull her from the bridal party, wish her the best of luck with her future and be very nice and polite about it. Then if/when she does finally decide to grow up and contact you, there will be no confusion on her part about whether or not she is still in the bridal party. 

Isn’t it funny – it is so easy to give other people advice on what to do in these situations, but when it’s our own we are like ..er…  


Good luck! Let us know if she does respond at all 🙂 

Post # 6
1772 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

hmm, I might be confused.  It kinda sounds like she had to cancel her wedding on basically zero notice (so she’s probably really upset) and you kept calling her to ask about it (maybe when she wasn’t ready?), which made her feel like you were making it about what you were going to do and its impact on everybody else instead of her (not sure if that’s right or not tho).  

Sucks that you were already out of the money on the room and plane tix, etc., but I might cut her some slack here if she had to cancel her wedding on barely any notice (and maybe they’re having problems beyond just her FI’s leave?).  I might write her an email/text saying that I hope she’s alright and I understand that she might need some time and that I’m here for her whenever she’s ready to hang out or talk.

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