- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I don’t have anyone else to vent to.
My maid of honor is my sister. She has been my biggest headache through this whole process. She is extremely unreliable, never asks me questions, but instead just makes stuff and tells me later, and has dissagreed with me on all kinds of decisions. Most importantly though, she hasn’t been involved, and has even dropped a few mean comments to me. My fiance’ even noticed. The other day she was over with my mom and other sister and said to my fiance “so [my name] just tells you what to do and you do it??” It wasn’t in response to anything, she just said it for no reason.
She wasn’t very into the planning of the bridal shower. She certainly didn’t coordinate with my bridesmaids, even though I emailed her and asked her to get together with them on the planning. so two out of five couldn’t make it. I know she loves me and means well, but she hasn’t shown it at all! Instead she has just argued with me about different things, and let me down on important stuff she said she would do.
I asked her if we can realistically make my veil? “Do we have time, can we raelly do it?” She said “Yes, absolutely”. She lives far away. When she came up to visit for the bridal shower, she was supposed to bring up the veil so we could cut it to the correct length. And she just didn’t bring it with her. So I am two months away and have nothing for a veil.
Last time she came up, I lent her my car for an entire month, and she only visited me once, in fact the second time I saw her, I went to where she was staying by train!
I know that many problems brides have are due to our own expectations. But at the very least I expect my maid of honor to: 1) follow through with promises, and 2) be nice to me!
She can be very sensitive, so she just tries to turn it around and say that I am being unreasonable and mean. I have tried to say things in ways to convince her that I need her help, and want her help, but none of it works. She obviously has something going on, and cannot fullfill her duties.
I have decided that this is the last week. If she wants to try, I will be happy. But if she doesn’t even make an effort for the rest of her trip up here, I will not ask her for anything else. I am not going to cause a big family problem and ask her to step down, but in my mind she will no longer be my maid of honor. Anything else I need, I will do myself or ask another girl.
I am so dissapointed.