- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2015
Hey all. So here we go: DH husband and I got married Jan3 2015. My sister moved in the week of Christmas. She is 17. At first everything was going fine. She moved in b/c she was in a horrible situation with her father and my mom couldnt take her at the time. So our house rules for her are: No drugs. No cigarettes. No alcohol. Clean up after yourself. Get a pt job. Start studying for your Ged. That was it. Long story short I find out that she was going to her friends house and smoking weed. That she had lied to me that they werent doing anything. Then that’s when the ungrateful attitude came on and the leaving cups and dishes in her room. One day husband was looking at the friend that she was doing weed with instagram THe girl had posted a picture on their that said something like #stoned #high #goodtimes.
I confronted her about it and we got in to a huge fight. I told her that everywhere she goes, she just can’t seem to get along with the people she lives with (all her family) that all she wants is to have a place to sleep. eat. and to do whatever she wants. At this point my husband is on the verge of being completely done with her. Shes very ungrateful and acts completely entitled to everything. She gets mad when I tell her I won’t drive her to her friends. She tells me that I never do when actually I cant count the number of times I have on two hands.
About three weeks ago me, husband, and sister had a good talk. We told her if we didn’t love her she wouldn’t be here and we wouldn’t be trying to provide a nice life with oppurtunities for her (She would not get this at her dads and probably not our moms either, unfortunately) two days later a huge fight broke out. All because my sister kept on with disrespscting me in a fight we were having (about me not driving her to her friends because i was sick with the stomach flu & so was my husband) Even though he was sick he jumped up and started yelling at her to show some respect and sympathy. He had had it at this point and I can’t blame him. 1. He was protecting me. 2. He was completely sick of my sister and her ungratefulness, how she never cleans up after herself, the fact that she was smoking in her room in our house, and acting entitled to everything.
So he kicked her out. For two days I was torn. I love my husband and I know he comes before my family now. After two days he agreed to let her back in but she had a specific, wrote out set of rules to follow. And they are pretty much the same as when she first got here but a few more tacked on. Well so far shes broke like 5 of them and has continued with the entitled/ungrateful-disrespectul attitude. Like last night she asked me to leave the door open when I left for work in the morning since she lost her key. I told her okay but be home by 8. (I have to be at work by 8 and I live 5 minutes away) Turns out my work was closed today so I didn’t have to go in (yay). Well she didn’t come home until 245pm. Like seriously??? Luckily I got to stay home today or my house would have been unlocked for so many hours!!<br />
Honestly, there’s so much more that im forgetting but I am so done. She does not appreciate anything we do for her. (Like buying her a new comforter and sheet and clothes for her work) She keeps her room a pig sty. I know she disrespected my husband because we heard her talking to her friend about it. Called him disgusting and a judgemental christian bastard. Husband said he didn’t care because she is leaving anyway.
This situation has me torn up bc i love her but she just does not understand and I cant allow her to disrespect my husband. Especially since he pays for almost everythign for her to live (house, heat, tv, internet, etc). Good grief, all we wanted to do was provide a loving, secure home for her since she’s never had that! And to give her oppurtunities like college and going on vacations with us!
Sorry, I just needed to vent and get this off my chest. 🙁