(Closed) Problems with Officiant?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
11274 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@yaena:  I would send a letter via snail mail to the officiant outlining all of the details that you believe you have agreed upon and ask that the officiant please respond in writing to confirm the date and time, as well as any details that you believe have been agreed upon.  Ask the officiant to reply via snail mail by a certain date.

Post # 4
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We were working with a highly recommend Officiant over the Internet for our Elopement to a Destination Wedding… when we ran into a situation much like you are.

They stopped corresponding with us… it was less than 1 week before the Wedding… and there were still loose ends.  I was freaking out.

Mr TTR the more relaxed guy that he is… said not to worry… as our Destination is a Wedding & Honeymoon mecca, so there would most definitely be someone who would marry us.

I went along with him (tried to trust him)… but inside was dieing.

We picked up our Marriage License at the other end of the State, 3 Days before our Planned BIG DAY.  I was happy.  Mr TTR was ever optomistic.

We arrived in our Destination the day before our chosen day… we started making phone calls.  First trying to track down the original Officiant Service.  No luck.

Then GOOGLING and making notes.

Mr TTR asked me to give him my Notes / List.  He made one or two phone calls and had a deal for not the day we had chosen, but the day after.  I attribute his success in part to the fact that he was a guy calling and told the story how the other company fell-thru for us, that I was tearful, and he really wanted to do was marry me (sooo sweet)

We went out to drink & eat, and celebrate.

The next morning I was cruising round the Internet, and found bad Reviews for the company we had just booked… I was in panic mode again.

I had 24 hours of worrying that we’d arrive at the Beach for our Destination Wedding, and there would be no one.  And no Wedding.

Mr TTR reassured me that if that was the case, we’d marry some other way / place on our planned holiday / honeymoon.

Day Of… I was off to get my hair & make up done.  We met up for lunch.  Then got dressed for the Ceremony.  Had some wonderful private moments (exchanged Wedding Presents to one another) and headed off to the Beach Wedding Site.

And there they were… Officiant & Photographer as promised.

Everything went off without a hitch… it was truly lovely.  I cannot even imagine now what the other (more costly) service could have done for us that these lovely people did.

No regrets.

My best advice… you have time… continue to hunt down the Original Officiant… but also start looking around NOW.  If you haven’t paid the other Officiant any thing to date, you can certainly still make a change of plans if needed.

Weddings are always stressful to some extent…

But in the end they tend to come together ok

(( HUGS ))

Hope this helps,


The Original Officiant… they were a bit more highend… and we figure they were offered a Bigger Wedding that paid more.  And rather than correspond with us and tell us the truth they just chose to take the Unprofessional route and ignore us.  Class act.

And the Bad Reviews for the company we went with ?  Well as funny as it sounds it was an opposite situation.  They seemed to come from a Bride (or two) who wanted a BIG Destination Wedding with all the frills… this company does small Weddings best, so they were best for us… not so much for the other Bride.

In the end… things worked out as they should have.  And all was right in the world… we had a wonderful ceremony and became Mr & Mrs TTR on a wonderful beach in The Keys.  A dream come true !!


Post # 5
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@yaena:  I would honestly find someone else if I could. That’s pretty unprofessional and I would assume they were not doing my wedding because of their lack of response.

Post # 6
1728 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Time for a new officiant. I ran into something similar, but in our case, the officiant was a friend (now no longer a friend).

Start hitting up all of the churches in your area.

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