Post # 1
My fiance and I each have three in our party, and so far we plan to have the guys and girls paired up to walk down the aisle.
FI’s best man is his friend “P”. My Matron of Honor is my friend “A”. Normally they should walk together then, right?
However, one of my bridesmaids is P’s wife. So should P and his wife walk together? If that’s the case then we would pair up “A” with one of FI’s other groomsmen. But then either my MoH or his Bridesmaid or Best Man is not walking in the traditional order.
What do you think? Split the married couple up so MoH and Bridesmaid or Best Man walk together? Have the married people together and then choose either the MoH or Bridesmaid or Best Man to be out of order?
I know we can also just not have the guys walk in but have them up front.
Seems silly to worry about it, but for some reason it’s bugging me.
Post # 3
I would say put the couple together. Just maybe put the Best man first (who sometimes waits at the altar with the groom) and let the Maid of Honor go last?
Post # 4
You can do things however you want. Our processional was a little mixed-up, too, in a different way:
My attendants were my two sisters (maid & matron of honor) and my brother (“bridesman”). My Fiance is an only child, so he had three friends stand on his side: a best man, a groomsman, and a “groomsmaid.” Our flower girls were my niece (matron of honor’s daughter) and my other goddaughter (not a relative), and the ring bearer was the “groomsmaid’s” son.
My two goddaughters were both quite little (14 mos. and 18 mos. at the time of the wedding) and we decided not to have them try walking alone – not worth the stress. So we decided to send the party down the aisle in little trios, kind of like family clusters, and we paired people based on who knew one another and what would make the little kids feel secure.
First group down was the groomsman, groomsmaid, and ring bearer (so, entirely DH’s side). And they all sat down together on the right of the aisle. The second cluster was my sister, brother, and niece (she was delighted to walk with her mommy and the uncle she adores), and they all filled in on the left. Last group was my other sister, the best man, and the other goddaughter – my sister is really wonderful with kids, and the goddaughter is very easygoing, so even though they didn’t meet one another until the night before the wedding, they were totally fine together. When they reached the end of the aisle, best man went to the right and my sister and goddaughter stepped to the left. And then we had both sets of parents walk in together and take their places in the pews right before Darling Husband and I came in together.
Anyhow, I’m making a short story painfully long, but the moral is: do what works for you guys!
Post # 5
I think the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man should walk together, regardless of the couple situation. It makes the most sense, and it’s only for the ceremony! If you want to have them enter differently at the reception, that would probably be fine, but for the ceremony, it should be in order.
Post # 6
@ClassyKate: +1 to this. For the ceremony, I’d just have them walk out in the traditional order, then for the reception, have them enter together. It’s a good compromise. 🙂