Post # 1
I am working on my processional and I was hoping to get a few opinions, please. I have 2 MOH’s (my sisters) and 3 bridesmaids. So five girls total, and only four groomsmen. I was thinking of having my girls walk out alone, which I don’t think many of them are fond of but I didn’t want any of them to have to walk alone and feel singled out. So the Groom and his guys would be up front already before the ceremony started, and for the girls….the bridesmaids enter first (right?), then the MOH’s, then flower girl and ring bearer, with my father and I to follow. And for the recessional I was thinking the guys and girls could exit alongside each other, with the last guy walking out with one girl on each side of him…..Thoughts on this? Suggestions are welcome and appreciated. Is anyone else having (or had) their girls walk out alone?
Also- for music…I know what song I want to walk out to, but should my girls have a different song or the same one I use? I mean I know that it really all just comes down to personal preference…but I am having such a hard time figuring it all out on my own!
Post # 2
I have actually never attended a wedding where the bridesmaids and groomsmen enter the ceremony together. The groom and groomsmen are always already at the front whilst the bridesmaids walk alone, then the flower girls/ring bearers and then the bride escorted by her father. This is exactly how we are doing our processional.
We also have uneven numbers – my Fiance has 3 groomsmen (no best man) whereas I have a Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 bridesmaids. My Maid/Matron of Honor will pair up with the first groomsmen, then 2 bridesmaids will pair up with the final groomsmen. My last bridesmaid is my 13 year old sister, and she will walk back up the aisle either by herself at the end of the line or with our little brothers, who are ring bearers (she wasn’t comfortable at all walking with someone she didn’t know). Do you only have 1 best man? If so, I would probably pair both of your Maid/Matron of Honor with him and then have the rest of the bridesmaids and groomsmen pair up behind.
I’m using one song for me and a different one for everyone else. I was happy to use the same song but I was having a really hard time choosing between 2 songs for the processional so just decided to use both lol – win win. At the most recent wedding I attended, everyone walked down the aisle to the same song.
Post # 3
I’ve also seen weddings where the groomsmen are already lined up and the bridesmaids come down the aisle one by one. I think it makes sense if you have one song you like to have a different one for the rest of the bridal party – it also creates a nice transition/pause that grabs everyone’s attention.
Post # 4
Could the best man walk in with one MoH on each arm?
Otherwise I would suggest the Best Man be already standing up there with the groom, and the two MoH walk together.
For the recessional, I just had my girls exit after me with the same music I used. My reasoning for not using different songs is that it really doesn’t take me much time to walk out of the ceremony venue.
Post # 5
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Processional either works with groom/officiant and his party walking up to the front and bridesmaids entering on their own… OR, groom and pastor walk to the front (perhaps the groom walks his mother down the aisle too???) and then bridal party enters together. In Jewish weddings the both sets of parents walk each child down the aisle!
We did the crazy following for our Baptist wedding- but it follows tradition and etiquette. Groom/pastor/groomsmen entered from the side. Then grandparents were escorted out (they’re not technically considered part of the processional but we put them on the ceremony card)- I let my grandparents decide who walked them out or if they wanted to go solo. Then the mothers go out- MOG goes first then MOB. I gave them both options- and the MOG decided to take her brother (who was also a groomsmen- my husband lost his dad and his uncle is the closest thing he has)… so he dropped of MOG and then stood up front. MOB walked out solo. Then my bridesmaids walked out by themselves. We didn’t use flower girls/ring bearers- but generally they go right before the bride (partially because mom/dad are in the party and are waving them to come down properly!)
I believe I had 1 song for the family/bridesmaids then 1 song for me. The change in songs typically help guests know when to rise and it buils anticipation.
For the recessional we were loopsided with 2 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen. We let the parents walk out with us but I told the grandparents to stay (since we were circling back to that location for family photos anyways). You may decide to let the kiddies stay back if it’s too difficult.
Bride & groom/ Maid/Matron of Honor & BM/ Bridesmaid and Groomsmen…MOG used her brother again (groomsmen) and my parents walked out last. It should be the exact opposite of how you walked in. Plus it will help with everyone remembering who they were with.
Plus if your final guy walks out with 2 girls- people usually laugh because he hams it up like “yes I got two ladies” and it’s always pretty funny!
IF your girls walk out solo before the wedding, really encourage them to look up- either at the groom, at the bridal party or look at anyone/anything other than the floor. It’s easy to feel embarassed and look down but photos look terrible like that.
Post # 6
Thanks to everyone for the responses. Very helpful! I have decided the girls will all walk alone, guys will enter from the side before the ceremony and be up front already.
And I decided on my song already, just have to pick one for them now. 🙂 Thanks again!
Post # 7
This was helpful to read, thanks for posting!