(Closed) Processional and Recessional- First of many Questions

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hmm, I would have never ‘paired’ my wedding party together. My bridesmaids went in order of how close I was to the girls. Same for my husband and his groomsmen. They walked with whoever was in the same spot as them. I guess I don’t understand why it matters if they are walking with someone who is the same height or weight as them.

Post # 4
2706 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@CiaArielleNeugebauer:  I think past Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man it doesn’t matter who walks with who, so pair people that are dating/married together.


Also, why would it matter what their height and weight is? 🙁

Post # 5
5708 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Birdee106:  I am going to +1 for this.

My Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man walked first, then our siblings because we asked them next and then our last pair. We didn’t pair by height. Had we done that we would have had a mess. No one is really going to look at how tall and “big” your Bridesmaid or Best Man is comapred to a Groomsmen.


Post # 7
67 posts
Worker bee

Meh, you don’t need to have the Wedding Party proces in paired up. 


Have the Men go down in whatever order you and your Fiance want (Groom escorts MoB, Best Man escorts MoG, RB, or whetever) then have the BM’s process down individually, then the flower girl, then you.

Also, in church weddings doesn’t the bridal party sit in the 1st row of pews, save for the MoH and Bridesmaid or Best Man who are on the altar with the Bride and Groom?


Post # 8
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@CiaArielleNeugebauer:  I placed them in order of how close I was to them, my Fi orderd his in his manner and that was the order they were in and matched up. I dodn’t think, or care, about how tall, short,fat, thin, someone was or wasn’t compared to the partner

Post # 9
39 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

Why don’t you have the men standing with the groom as the women enter, the traditional processional? No one will notice the match-up in the faster-paced recessional but might since the processional is a bit slower.

Post # 10
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our Maid/Matron of Honor is 5’2″ and our best man is… 6’3″?  6’4″?  It was pretty funny.

Post # 11
8 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m getting married in five weeks and I am 5’3″ and my Fiance is 6’5″ We did not match our wedding party by anything after the Maid/Matron of Honor and best man. He has three brothers so they went by age after the Bridesmaid or Best Man and I just matched them up with whomever I felt like they would go with. Congratulations on your engagement!

Post # 13
67 posts
Worker bee

Again, I  wouldn’t match anyone up.  I’d go with the traditional processional, as mentioned above.

If you are dead set on having the GMs and BMs walk together, pair couples together and other than that it doesn’t really matter.  This isn’t a dance number so height pairs don’t really matter. . . and they look too Prom-ish anyways 😉

Post # 14
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We paired our wedding party by height, though nobody’s SO was also in the wedding party with them. We vary in height and size quite a bit, and in heels, a couple of my girls were taller than their groomsman pair.


My Maid/Matron of Honor is maybe 5’4″, and she walked with the 5’5″ best man. She was a little taller in 3″ heels.


Then my ~5’6″ friend walked with my 5’11” brother.


Then my 6’2″ friend walked with DH’s 6’2″ friend, and she was a little taller than him in 2″ heels.


And then there’s my groom and I, who are 5’2″ and 6’6″!


Honestly, I didn’t think too much about height differences, and I don’t think you notice it in any photos, especially because our ceremony was on stairs where everyone was staggered. In portrait photos, sometimes the photographer arranged us by height, and I just trusted his eye. 


I had the groomsmen line up with the groom and the girls walk in alone, then they were escorted out by the groomsmen at the recessional. That reduced how much time they were walking with a stranger in front of a crowd of people. They also entered the reception and were announced by pairs, and the groomsmen escorted the bridesmaids to their seats before taking their own seats.

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