Post # 1
I decided my mom is walking me down the aisle. I have a father who I have a strained relationship with, to say the least, and my step dad who we were once very close but all the wedding planning put strain on that as well surprisingly. How do I incorporate them, if at all, during the ceremony processional? It seems odd for them to walk together or be ushered. (which we weren’t planning on having ushers) Do they then not walk at all and sit the whole time? I don’t want to necessarily include them with walking me down because that’s all my mom. She deserves the honor.
It also leads into my second dilemma of the same sorts… My FHs parents had an ugly divorce and FH is not on great terms with his mom. Do they have to walk down the aisle at all, or can all parents just be seated?
Any insight is appreciated! The situation was a little complicated to Google an answer for. 🙂
Post # 2
Since it’s just a whole pile of drama on both sides – it’s super easy to skip and just have them take thier seats with the the rest of your guests. I think there’s enough to stress about with wedding planning that I would just skip this and make it easy on yourself.
However, if parents make a fuss then I would just have them all walk individually I guess. Unless there is an obvious partner to walk with them – like a spouse if any of them are remarried. Or if there are grandparents or siblings who they could be paired with. My brother was a groomsman in my wedding but escorted my mom down the aisle, then he circled back around to walk down with a bridesmaid. It was pretty simple but I don’t know if that would help in your situation.
Post # 3
Just have all the parents seat themselves
There doesn’t have to be a big processsion, especially if you aren’t having ushers.
Maybe just ensure that your FH or the officiant separates the parents in the first few rows so there isn’t a seating drama.
Front Left- Your Step Dad with space for your mum next to him
2nd Row – Your FH’s mum and supportive relations
Front Right- Your FH’s dad and supportive relations
2nd Row – Your Dad and supportive relations