(Closed) Procrastinating BM – Result: pay rush for your dress!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is not your fault or your problem. What I would suggest is that you pretend you have no idea what the cost is, and if any of your ‘Maids have the audacity to say something, look Truly Apologetic and say

“Brittney, I’m sorry, $248 does seem like a rididuclous amount to pay for a dress, I had No Idea you planned to wait so long to buy your dress or I would have told you there would be rush charges”


It is not your fault.

Post # 4
2701 posts
Sugar bee

Wow, are we the same person because it sounds like me writing this post? I feel your pain, I have been there, exactly in your situation pretty much. I have stepped away from the situation ultimately… They are grown women, they should be able to do this on their own. I refuse to be a babysitter. I too asked my girls a year ago and my emails, texts, and calls have gone ignored. Oh well. The girls who have dresses will stand, those do not will be guests. As the bride, you have enough to worry about, please don’t make their concerns your own. I know it sucks to have an uneven number of BMs and GMs, however those without a partner can very easily walk on their own.

Hang in there, it will get better I promise.

Post # 5
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

What did they expect to happen?

They should all know the basics of being bridemaids (or asked you for any help if they didn’t know). It’s kind of expected that if you have to order a specialty dress item it has to be ordered in advance…otherwise you won’t be able to get it in time or you’ll have to pay an extra fee. 

You gave them plenty of time to order their dresses. They can get snippy all they want, but you did let them know months ago that they should order them.


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