Procrastinating boyfriend

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
Post # 61
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Bee Keeper

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@elderberry:  Yesssss

Let’s pick out the ring, try it on, wear it around…but not be engaged until the man utters the magic words. I have a good friend, more like my 2nd daughter, and she just went through this process, rather unhappily. I will never understand it!

Post # 62
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Bumble bee

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@indigobee:  I get that it is hard to hear your partner isn’t sure about marrying you when you are sure about marrying them.  (My OH had to hear this from me about 3 times, so I’m sure he will understand it even more!)  But is it really harder to deal with than OPs situation?  She’s not only had to hear that her boyfriend needs more time to be sure, but she’s also had two lengthy periods of building excitement followed by crushing disappointment when the promised proposal didn’t happen.

If I had to choose between either my OH saying he needed more time before being sure about getting marriage OR my OH promising to propose by x date, ratting on the promise and then telling me he needed more time to be sure, I’d definitely prefer the former option!

Post # 63
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Blushing bee

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@Adreanna:  Please know your frustrations and feelings are valid. Ask the following question and the answer will give you all the information you need on where his head is at. 

“Hypothetically, if you had all of the logistics of a proposal figured out. You had the ring and a way to surprise me and there were no outside stressors, would you be ready to propose tomorrow? 

If yes then it’s truly a logistical thing. If no, he’s not ready emotionally. 

 

Post # 65
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Blushing bee

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@Ciera Alicia A:  hold on…  Is this the original poster sharing engagement news?! 🙂 The user name is different so I’m confused. 

Post # 67
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@skuzzlebutt:  I thought that ring looked familiar lol.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee

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@bluebonnetbee:  No.   @Ciera Alicia A chimed in on the OPs post to say that she was facing a similar situation with her own boyfriend, only he had also lied to her about having bought a ring and later confessed he made it up.  OP, as far as I know, has no update on her situation.

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