(Closed) Procrastinating bridesmaid

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Eek!! i ordered a bill levkof dress for the wedding i was in and it took 5 months Undecided

could you get her the dress in leiu of a gift or do you get the feeling she doesnt want to be in the wedding at all? or maybe offer her a cheaper alternative. you could also guess her size if she is close to another girl and order it for her and tell her to pay u back when she can.  i have a chocolate colored size 10 bill levkoff if you want haha! good luck!

Post # 4
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You need to tell her that dresses need to be ordered by a certain date, or it can’t happen at all. I’m sorry 🙁 You’ve already offered to cover the dress for her, so you’ve done everything you can. I’ve seen a lot of similar situations end poorly, unless the bride sets her foot down and picks a concrete make-or-break date. Good luck!

Post # 5
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My sister still hasn’t got her dress. I found a shop literally two blocks from her house, and she still hasnt gone, so frustrating. She’s my sister and I love her, so if she hasn’t got the dress we’ll just have to find something off the rack that’s similar. 

Post # 6
7552 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@aml325:  That’s frustrating. What does the dress shop say the absolute last date for ordering is? 

Post # 7
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am dealing with this LITERALLY right this second. My wedding is April 13, 2013 and she hasn’t ordered it. I am now having to send her money for it 🙁

Post # 8
11 posts

@aml325:  That’s a tough one! I guess I would sit down with her and try and (gently) try and figure out what’s going on here. Saying something like “Hey, I wanted to check in with you about the bridesmaids dress. I was actually hoping that you could get that in the next two weeks. Is that something you’re willing to do?” Of course, it might be hard for your friend to say no, so try and feel out where she is in this process. Or, you could just tell her you ordered the dress already, and that she can just pay you back for it.

You could even ask one of your other bridesmaids to talk to her about it – it might be easier for her to be stern with your procrastinating bridesmaid, and that way she doesn’t feel like she’s being pestered by you.

I hope this helps, and good luck! Hopefully your bridesmaid will get her act together soon 🙂

Post # 9
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think you need to let your bridesmaid know firmly, but nicely, that there is a deadline for ordering the dress. If she doesn’t order it, or waits too long and she can’t get it in time for the wedding, then I guess she has decided that she will not be standing up with you. I know that sounds harsh, but you can’t force her to order it if she is procrastinating, and after all she is an adult that should know the responsibilities of the commitments she takes. 

Post # 10
2 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am dealing with the same issue with 2 of my bridesmaids except it has nothing to do with the cost of the dress.  My wedding is June 1st.  I had a dress picked out for my 8 bridesmaids by November and set a deadline to order by January.  Now I have one bridesmaid who doesn’t know if she wants to be in the wedding because she has gained weight and doesn’t feel comfortable in a dress, and another bridesmaid who has put off ordering her dress because she is losing weight and her “body is changing daily.”  I honestly just want to scream “ITS NOT ABOUT YOU OR HOW YOU WILL LOOK” but these are my best friends and I know what it feels like to be self-sonscious.  The bright side is I still have 6 other bridesmaids who all have a dress!

Post # 11
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@aml325:  OMG…. we ordered Bill Lefkoff dresses and with 5 months to go I had to pay $75 EACH extra on the dresses to rush them because I missed the cut off for when I would need them by 1 week. The closer it gets to the date the more expensive it gets! She needs to go soon or it will be crazy! Can she do just a deposit? 

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