Post # 1
9 days to go and Fiance hasn’t picked out gifts for his guys yet. Sigh. That pretty much cuts out ordering anything online w/o a huge rush (if even possible – it’s only 4 full business days before we leave.) Anyone else’s grooms procrastinate madly?
Post # 3
Our ceremony is next Monday and Fiance has changed his mind about 10 times about what he wanted to get the guys and ended up at the outlet mall yesterday scrounging to find something.
I’m scared to find out what/if he got anything.
Post # 4
I’m so afraid of this happening! This is one of FI’s major weaknesses!
Post # 5
Yep. We’ve only been engaged for like a month and so far Fiance has procrastinated on everything I’ve asked him to do. It took him almost a week to call his friends and let them know about the engagement, even though he was adamant that they not find out on facebook (meanwhile all my family and friends had been told and I was worried that someone would post something on my timeline about it).
He hasn’t talked to his parents about anything wedding related that I’ve asked him to ask them about.
I picked up some information from my church about their policies on weddings and asked Fiance to read them before I go check out venues and let me know what he thought so we could make an appointment with the minister to discuss any concerns they both had (FI is not religious). We won’t be meeting with the officiant before I look at venues now (I’m going tomorrow and Fiance just looked at the info last night after I sat him down and said “You need to do this NOW. No goofing off. Get it done”). So I’m going to veunes asking a million what if’s, (can we have the ceremony here? how much more will that be)when if Fiance had actually done what I asked him to do when I asked him I’d know exactly what’s going on, and I could get one exact idea of what would happen at the venue.
When I try to talk to him about anything wedding related he just keeps joking around. “Oh venues? Don’t worry about it we’ll just have it at McDonalds!” “Budget? Sure, how much is a marriage license? 50$ DONE!” (even though it’s way more than $50).
If he keeps doing this, I’m honestly just going to stop asking his opinion and plan our wedding the way I want. Which I don’t really want to do, because it is OUR wedding not MY wedding.
Post # 6
@futuremrste: Yeah, that’s what Fiance did. Buried his head the entire time, poking his head up occasionally to protest a decision already made. Every once in a while he’d feel bad I was stressed out and offer to do something, but inevitably it landed back in my lap. His “help” was to tell me not to stress and to not do things for the wedding.
Post # 7
Ya, Fiance procrastinated a lot, and I highly doubt his groomsmen will get a gift, I’ll probably go pick something out for them after the wedding.
Post # 8
Um, we are 2.5 months and he hasn’t asked his groomsmen….even though we have known who he was going to ask FOREVER. Boys are weird.
Post # 9
Well my Fiance waited so long that I ordered his gifts and did everything and now we are down to 1 1/2 months. Im not telling him I got everything. Im going to let him know the stress I have had to feel, cause he thought the history channel on TV was more important all those months I was planning.
Post # 10
Yup. Only 7 days to go. He only decided about 2 days ago what he was going to get his best man (something I actually found and suggested to him about 3 weeks ago). Although he know’s what he’s getting him, he hasn’t actually made any move to get it, and our rehearsal is on Thursday. This was the only person he had to get a gift for, thanks goodness. MEN!
Post # 11
@kay01: I think we might be marrying brain twins or something. My lovely man is doing the same thing. I ask him to help, he puts it off and after I’ve already made a decision and booked a vendor he chimes in with his two cents. It’s too expensive, he has a friendor, etc.
His cousin is a really popular DJ in the town that we’re getting married in and when I asked Fiance to try to book him for the wedding, he told me that he’d look into it. I guess looking into it means playing Battle Pirates on Facebook because as far as I know, we still don’t have a DJ.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I pretty much having a running “harass Mr. D about this” list. It takes him no less than 10 reminders to do something… when it came to getting the five addresses I needed from him for Save-The-Date Cards, for instance, I had to email him twice, remind him four times in person, threaten to do it myself, and then, on the last day possible, he scrambled and got it done!
Post # 13
@kay01: Yeah, my guy is stupid about procrastination…he didn’t buy a new car til his old one burst into flames….he dated me for 9 years before proposing, also, my lease is up in 1 month and he still hasn’t found a place for us to live (it kind of falls on his shoulders since I’ll be moving to his province and all that jazz), so yes, you are not alone. I really hate this trait!!!!!!!!!