- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
So, I tried to be a calm, laid back bride and have spent a tremendous amount of energy making sure that everything is as smooth and easy as possible for everyone else. And where has it gotten me? My wedding is a mere three and a half weeks away and one of my four BM’s still hasn’t purchased her dress!! Six months ago I gave them my only request, that as bridesmaids, they purchase a dress from David’s Bridal in a certain color with a matching bolero jacket. They were allowed to choose any style dress they wanted but I wanted them all to wear jackets for the ceremony so that they would look cohesive in pictures. Now, with the wedding mere weeks away, only one purchased a jacket (though in a different style than I originally wanted), the Maid/Matron of Honor whined for months about wanted to look different from everyone else and I finally caved and let her do her own thing, another maid JUST purchased her dress last week and informed me that DB no longer makes to boleros in our wedding color, and the last maid, who was to first to go to the store and try on dresses with me when I was in town to look at the venue, hasn’t bought her dress yet and won’t respond to my texts about getting her dress!! SERIOUSLY! I sent FB messages, text messages, made phone calls and made sure everyone was on the same page months ago and then trusted them to be adults and carry out my one and only wish. Then a few months later I sent out a Bridesmaid or Best Man newsletter that I spent a good amount of time crafting that again emphasized what they would be wearing (among other timeline info). I didn’t ask them for specific shoes or hair or jewelry. All I asked was that they purchase a dress of their choosing and jacket in a certain color. Now my vision has been scrapped because they couldn’t be bothered to go to the store!? And what am I supposed to do about my friend, my very close friend, who as of a few days ago still hadn’t gone to the store and won’t respond to my admittedly prodding texts?
I could really use some of that famous Hive support here. I just never thought something like this would happen to me and I never wanted to be a demanding bridezilla. So what else can I do?