(Closed) procrastinating on writing thank you cards! :(

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

We were married on July 24th and still have several left to send out. It’s okay. I won’t start feeling bad about it for at least another couple of weeks.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Lol I am soooo glad I’m not the only one who does this! I, like you, appreciate the gifts and the thought, but have trouble sitting down and writing thank yous for everything. It’s the wording; I always feel so cheesy… not so much for saying thank you, but trying to fill in the rest. Some say to tell them how you are going to use their gifts, but that still feels silly and I feel like I’m writing the same thing to everyone. I wish a simple “thank you for the gift, we really appreciate it” would be enough.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I got most of mine out two months after the wedding.  There are still a few left to write (mostly the people that came but w/o a present so I was waiting a bit more to see if something showed up at the house late). 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

me and hubby did 32 yesterday at one seating. my trick: get him to write them. when i write notes i feel like i need to be long and unique and they take forever. he just writes something very basic “thanks so much for your gift! we look forward to using x for y. hope you had a great time at the wedding!” and then signs our names. i feel like they look obvious that they are written by a man so people are okay that they are brief. he doesn’t think he has good handwriting, so i write the addresses on the envelopes. when i’m not writing enveopes, i help out and of course  there are some notes that to specific people that i want to do, so i do those as well. it goes so much faster when you work as a team.

i don’t feel bad beacuse i had to do all the notes for 2 showers by myself plus 7 bridesmaid cards. plus i planned a whole wedding! its his turn…..(actually i have a friend who made her husband do ALL of the thank you cards – her excuse being that she planned the entire wedding)

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I figure as long as you have them all completed and sent out about 2 months after the wedding, you’re golden!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are having our “honeymoon” before the wedding so I will prob be doing my thank you notes the monday after the wedding. In my family if you dont send out thank yous ASAP you dont get gifts anymore.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My wedding isn’t until October, but I’ve had two showers and the way I’ve gotten my thank you’s done is this:  we can’t open/use the gift until we write and send the note.  We have a small condo, so we get everything done really quickly so the gifts can be opened and put away!  Also, my honey does some of them with me.

As for wording, here’s an example to get you going:

Dear Steve and Linda,

Thank you so much for coming to our wedding!  We hope you had a great time, and it was fun to get to catch up for a bit.  A big thank you for the silver platter also!  It’s gorgeous, and will give me a good excuse to have a dinner party or two.  We’ll be calling you after we’ve gotten settled into married life.

Love,

Jim and Sue

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Important Bride announcement: The whole you have a year to send thank-yous is a LIE! One of my cousins got married in May and hasn’t sent out their thank yous yet and I have not heard my aunts and uncles stop bringing it up yet. 

My goal is to have them all out 1 month post wedding. So far we are a quarter done with the wedding thank yous, but all the shower ones are out. I’ve just been trying to do 4 or 5 every night when I realize all I’m doing is watching food network. It’s not terribly fun after a long day of unpacking and cleaning a new apartment, but DO IT!! 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Mine WILL be all out by two months post-wedding.  Plus, my shower was the day before the wedding so I had all the shower thank yous to do post-honeymoon too!  All the shower ones are done and mailed and I’m now working on wedding!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I had my shower thank yous mailed out two weeks afterwards. I felt such guilt not getting them out sooner. I didn’t feel right doing pretty much anything fun until i got them out. Well I assume some brides will feel the push the rest of the year to get the Thank yous out sooner than later with the increase in postage coming,

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had my shower Saturday and wrote the Thank You cards Sunday – going in the mail today., The way I look at it, I don’t want to do it during the week after work and the gym, etc.  It was just easier to do it right after the shower.  Plus, I didn’t know anyone at the shower (thrown my FMIL) so I wanted to make a good impression on her friends and Fiance family.  The worst thank you card to write was for the lingerie – seriously who the hell brings the bride lingerie to a BRIDAL SHOWER?  This was not a lingerie party people…  Anyway, I don’t think most people care how they are worded so long as you mention the actual gift – it really is the thought that counts.  I still haven’t received a thank you card for a wedding gift Fiance and I gave at a bridal shower in early June and the wedding was two months ago….  I wouldn’t have cared what it said, but it would be nice to know our gift was appreciated.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Until the week before the wedding, every wedding present had its thank you go out in the mail within one week (most within days).  We were gone almost 3 weeks for our honey moon.  By the time we came back, I’d written about half of them.  I couldn’t get Darling Husband to write any of the ones to the people he knew.  HOWEVER, he did cuttlebug all of them and addressed & stamped almost all the envelopes by hand.  Within 6 weeks, all but a handfull were done.

My mom told me I should take the cards with me and write them during the down time on our cruise.  And I did.  And, she even made me write separate cards for all the group gifts!

In any event, people commented that I had written long thank yous and that they were “personalized.”  They also noted that I was pretty prompt.  THAT made my mom pretty happy.  She hates it when she doesn’t get prompt thank yous and will make a point to “embarass” the recipient by asking if they’d received the gift (she has them sent).  And she remembers who wasn’t prompt too!

It’s making her crazy that my sister hasn’t written any thank yous yet (and she’s been receiving presents for a couple months now).

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