(Closed) Program Complication – help?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
  • poll: So what do you think I should do?

    List them all separetely

    List them all the "traditional" way (Mr and Mrs John Jones) But then, what to do with mom's?

    Only put biological parents

    Other, Suggestions please!

  • Post # 4
    1794 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think it really depends on the relationships you and Fiance have with your parents’ spouses. Did they raise you? Do you think of them of an extra parent? Unless you feel very close to the spouses, I would just list biological parents. I’d put the biological parents on separate lines (see below) so people don’t think they are still together

    Mother of the Bride: Dr. Mary A____ Jones-Smith (mom)

    Father of the Bride: Mr. John M______ Jones (dad)

    Mother of the Groom: Mrs. Jane B______ Wilson (FI’s Mom)

    Father of the Groom: Mr. Joe E_____ Davis (FI’s dad)

    Post # 5
    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012


    Post # 6
    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I agree.  Only go with biological parents.  If you explain the confusion, do you think they will understand?  Maybe the newspaper announcement (if you’re doing one) is a way to honor the step parents. 

    Post # 9
    395 posts
    Helper bee

    I would say

    Parents of the bride: Mr. Jones and Mr. Jones and Mrs. Jones-Smith

    Parents of the groom: Mr. Davis and Mrs. Wilson

    Post # 10
    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    What if you list out your and your FI’s biological parents (give them the title of Parents of the Bride and Parents of the Groom).  Then somewhere else on the program say, “We would also like to give a special thanks to _______ for their support and love over the years” (or something that is meaningful to you).  This way you can acknowledge people that are special to you.  Just an idea…


    Post # 11
    1412 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’d say list the married couples in the traditional way, the single biological parents (if unmarried) on their own line. Girlfriends of parents do not get listed in the program unless you really want them to imo. 

    Post # 12
    730 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It seems weird to me to include your step-dad, but not your step-mom… if it were me, I’d do this:

    Parents of the Bride:

    John and Margaret Jones

    Mary Jones-Smith and Mark Smith


    Parents of the Groom:

    Joe Davis

    Jane Wilson

    Post # 14
    730 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

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    @AmeliaBedelia:Yeah, I totally get the emotional reasons behind you wanting to include your step-dad WAY more than you want to include your step-mom. Makes total sense. I was just thinking that on something official like this, it might be offensive to your step-mom if she doesn’t get treated the same as your step-dad… it just seems like if I were her, I’d end up thinking where’s my name? I married her parent too… 

    I doubt your step-dad would be hurt if step-mom’s name was included, but it seems like step-mom might have her feelings hurt if step-dad is there but she isn’t…

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