(Closed) Programs, Question and a little vent

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I don’t think you’re exteme either…



    To stay on good terms with him though I would send him back an email saying something along the lines of…


   I apologize I have made you feel rushed, that was not my intention.  The person printing my programs would like to get these started, as they may take up to a month.  Once again, I am so sorry, and I hope we can work something out.


  I would pay him a compliment somewhere in the email… stroke it a bit.  

   I think he is completely insane… but I’ve noticed to get things done you have to be super nice and patient.  Men usually respond to compliments.  Try it.  

Post # 5
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008


Sounds like this person is lazy and doesn’t understand how much a bride really has to do. Yes, it doesn’t take programs 2 months to print, but WHY put it off when it CAN be done earlier? I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want this information and I can’t believe some people actually don’t have a mental edit button (or in this case, proofread and read what you wrote, it’s the internet, for everyone’s sake!).

This is the thing about the internet. People wouldn’t say the same crap in person but they do it online because they’re hiding behind some stupid e-mail address or avatar. It doesn’t change anything. How very unprofessional.    


Post # 6
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

I’m not sure what your programs entail, but is it possible to lay out the covers now, print them, score them, cut ribbon, etc. (basically, whatever else you can get done early)….. and then lay out the interior of the program with dummy copy where your music info will go?  Once you get all the information settled, then you could just insert the new info, print out the interiors and put everything together.

I’m not sure if this is reasonable, but if you try to complete the majority of your other wedding projects by 2 weeks before the wedding and leave only completing the programs and doing your table arrangements/place cards in the last 2 weeks, I think you’d be okay.  But, that’s just how I’m trying to organize things with the projects that I know need to wait a while to be completed! 

Post # 9
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think you risk nothing by going above his head…I mean what might happen, your relationship deteriorates?  I’d rather things blow up now than later–11 days is ridiculous.  I have decided not to yield to the gate keepers in life, THIS PERSON IS UNSTABLE so if you take none of my advice please listen to this, prepare for the worst and hope for the best.  Anything else you are doing yourself a dis-service.  Good Luck

Post # 10
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

We are getting married the same day as you, and we have July 15 as our "make all decisions for the program date."  We will then spend the next week laying out the text, deciding on wording.  Final week of July it will be at the printers.  July 30 I want to mail it to the woman who will be cutting them out and assembling them (they are fans) – and she will ship them to our Destination Wedding venue.  Hope that helps.

Post # 11
88 posts
Worker bee

just as a sympathy note — as a graphic designer, I experience this all the time. Clients don’t understand that a printer WILL NOT BE RUSHED. so they expect a design in like 2 days, even though IT COULD BE DONE EARLIER. it makes me crazy!!! i’m so sorry 🙁 it sounds like it would take him half an hour to do this!

Post # 12
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Fine. Tell him you’re leaving the country, since he’s already accepted that as a valid reason for needing to do it sooner. Such unporfessional behavior is really absurd, but two can play at that game 😛

Post # 13
53 posts
Worker bee

I agree with ju1244 – you deserve better treatment, member or not. I would let the church office know how offended you were (include his email) and mention that you were planning on becoming a member, but are now unsure because of his behavior. If they don’t do anything about it, that’s their problem, you’ve done all you can, but at least you said something.

Nothing irks me more when churches think they can walk all over people and then act self-riteous about it! I grew up in a parish like that and it almost completely turned me off from the religion. I feel for you, hang in there!!!

Post # 14
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland

I’m going to go against the grain here and say that it’s actually not much of a problem.

Programs don’t need to be done two months ahead of time.  We didn’t nail down the final song the soloist would be singing until about 6 days before.  What we did do is make a mockup of the program and did as much as we could (printing, design, cutting ribbon, etc.) prior to that.  Then when we got the info, we could just insert it into the appropriate part of the program and print and assemble.  If you take care of everything else that needs to be done ahead of time, there really isn’t all that much to do the week before a wedding.

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