Post # 1
Yesterday the SO and I got into a rather serious conversation about our future and finances – mainly that he wants to live together and be financially stable before we get married.
I’m from a Catholic Filipino family and although my mother approves of the idea of living together before marriage (she didn’t live with my Dad until they were married and now they’re separated but that’s a whole another story ), my father is quite old-fashioned and isn’t keen on the idea. Personally I think it’s a good idea but I know that a) we have to tread carefully with my father and b) I need to earn more to be able to afford to move out. Luckily, we settled on the following:
- he will propose first before we move in so that my father knows that we are indeed serious about each other (more specifically, that he is serious about me)
- I’ll be studying postgrad part time so I can work more – and my boss just gave me more hours which is fantastic! – and thus afford to move out
- We will both strive to be financially ready – in our case, be able to afford to rent a flat together – before we start saving/planning a wedding.
Oh and I just got off the phone with the SO. Apparently, after our talk last night, he is now planning on asking my parents for their permission/blessing at some point soon. I’m rather embarassed to admit that I spent the next seconds jumping up and down with glee before feigning a swoon… I scare myself sometimes
Post # 3
@Miss Circe: This sounds like great news!!
Post # 4
Him talking with your parents (and telling you about it!) seems like a really big sign that he is totally committed and going to propose soon. Glad to hear the good news!
Post # 5
Wow that is great news! Glad to see that you are both on the right track 🙂
Post # 6
This sounds like a really great and logical plan. Sometimes people don’t want to hear “logical” mentioned when discussing engagements, but I think it’s really important for you to be financially independent before starting your engagement and wedding planning. Your boyfriend sounds like a great guy who really cares about you. Best of luck in your waiting!
Post # 7
Thank you for the kind words everybody. I guess the talk was especially great since it’s been a little rough waiting the past few weeks whilst watching friends/fellow bees get engaged and I couldn’t help feeling a little jealous. Plus it’s been hard not taking control and proposing to him myself. But
Thank you for the kind words everybody. I guess the talk was especially great since it’s been a little rough waiting the past few weeks whilst watching friends/fellow bees get engaged and I couldn’t help feeling a little jealous. Plus it’s been hard not taking control and proposing to him myself. But like @shirasagi: said, it is important to be financially independant and I’m going to use my waiting time to work on that and make that happen.