- 7 years ago
SO and I haven’t talked weddings in awhile; in fact, it’s been about 3-4 solid months. However, we have always talked openly about it and have narrowed down that we DO want to marry each other, just a matter of logistics and when SO is ready. Our last talk was a good one – we discussed a realistic budget, savings, timelines, and what we would want to do. The day after that we discussed rings (not the first ring talk), and he and I both agreed that we like emerald cut solitaires, and found some online at Zales. But – he’s quite gun-shy about the monetary investment ($2500) that goes into a ring, so I haven’t been holding my breath for that day.
Anywho, yesterday we went to the mall with my besty. I have a promise ring that is a three stone from Zales and we got the warranty, so it goes in every 6 months. Shortly after it’s last 6 month check-up, I noticed one of the small diamond chips on the inside of the band had fallen out. So, on our mall trip, I dropped it off and picked up a turqouise ring I had ordered.
SO didn’t linger too long in the store before going outside to sit on the bench, while my friend and I scoped every case until the lady started finished my paperwork. Naturally I ended up near the engagement section and they had some gorgeous, intricate, 1/3 carat halo rings that were $699! I LOVE me some halos, although SO is not a big fan. But, given the price, I couldn’t pass up not telling him about it, as he has made it clear several times that he’s not really understanding of the price of these things.
And what does he say? “I’m not going to buy you a ring I don’t like”. WHAT? This through me for a complete loop! This is a guy who can’t resist saving a penny or two, and I just found a gorgeous e-ring for $700 and you don’t even want to see?
So – here’s where the title comes in. My besty says that to her it seems like he knows what he wants to get for me, and doesn’t even want to waste time looking at a ring he knows he won’t like.
My coworker says perhaps he already has a ring.
And I’m on the fence. Maybe he’s just so turned off by the idea (after all, my besty is currently going through a divorce and he sees how difficult it has been for them).